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August 29, 2018, 06:31:00 AM
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teemoo215


My GF has had a pattern of inappropriate texting behavior. She’s allowed her ex to text her asking if he can come over, if she missed him, can they meet etc. She tells me that she doesn’t respond but I know she says no or no thank you and has before told him her daughter has asked about him.

She says she told him about me but he continued and she won’t block him. Another man sends selfies and asks Her on trips. She admits she’s flirted with this man. Recently she friended a man at a group and they exchanged numbers and I’m like here we go again. I told her he would become inappropriate soon as my intuition has told me. She mentioned that he sent daily meditations which she showed me on the texts and the one day I saw a message come in that said the meeting was good but would be better if you were there.

This has become a pattern of behavior and I had become angered and concerned so one day her phone was left out so I checked her messages. I know this was wrong but I felt so violated I did a bad thing. I found two of the men clearky flirting with Her and she didnt respond. The new guy with the texts she shows me that they were meditations I look for and now the thread has been totally deleted and my stomach sinks.

I bring all this up and tell her I can’t do this unless she addresses it and ask about the erased text and she deflects. It seems to me she is breadcrumbing these men to gain attention. I think I have no choice but to think something is going on. If not physical infidelity than emotional . What do you guys think?

August 29, 2018, 04:48:35 PM
Reply #1

goodevening


My GF has had a pattern of inappropriate texting behavior. She’s allowed her ex to text her asking if he can come over, if she missed him, can they meet etc. She tells me that she doesn’t respond but I know she says no or no thank you and has before told him her daughter has asked about him.

She says she told him about me but he continued and she won’t block him. Another man sends selfies and asks Her on trips. She admits she’s flirted with this man. Recently she friended a man at a group and they exchanged numbers and I’m like here we go again. I told her he would become inappropriate soon as my intuition has told me. She mentioned that he sent daily meditations which she showed me on the texts and the one day I saw a message come in that said the meeting was good but would be better if you were there.

This has become a pattern of behavior and I had become angered and concerned so one day her phone was left out so I checked her messages. I know this was wrong but I felt so violated I did a bad thing. I found two of the men clearky flirting with Her and she didnt respond. The new guy with the texts she shows me that they were meditations I look for and now the thread has been totally deleted and my stomach sinks.

I bring all this up and tell her I can’t do this unless she addresses it and ask about the erased text and she deflects. It seems to me she is breadcrumbing these men to gain attention. I think I have no choice but to think something is going on. If not physical infidelity than emotional . What do you guys think?

If she has been exchanging phone numbers, telling other guys that she misses them, etc then you really shouldn't be with her.

I don't blame you for thinking that something is going on, you deserve better than that and she clearly isn't interested in your relationship.

What does your gut say?

August 31, 2018, 04:20:01 PM
Reply #2

QueenFarLou


There's too much red flags. I'm sorry but I think she is not serious about you. You should start considering terminating your relationship with her.

September 05, 2018, 08:11:14 PM
Reply #3

goodevening


There's too much red flags. I'm sorry but I think she is not serious about you. You should start considering terminating your relationship with her.

I hate to say it, but I do agree with @QueenFarLou, you deserve better.

Let us know how you get on.

 

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