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Author Topic: Bi and Confused.

May 26, 2019, 05:04:09 PM
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I have a question.

I am a bisexual older guys but I live a straight life. I date women (When I date) but I do enjoy having sex with men (I would be the top). But I do not want a relationship with a guy except for a sexual fwb kinda thing. So...I have a friend that I spend time with, we have a kind of "bro" relationship. I've known him since his early teen years and he is now 29. I never had an attraction to him till lately. I have been there for him for all kinds of situations. Supporting him and encouraging him.
He is pretty open with me and talks to me about the women he is attracted to, asking how he should approach or telling me about how stupid he was in his approach. lol.
I think that my curiosity with him and my attraction goes back to a particular night that he disclosed to me that he had met up with a guy that he met online and let him give him a blow job. I don't remember what my immediate reaction was but I eventually asked him if he liked it and he said "his tongue felt like sandpaper". I chuckled and we went on with our night and it never came up again.
We have had some very drunk nights together and have been in nothing but our underwear, but never naked. On one of those nights I remember being very "touchy" and was rubbing his back and even kissed his back as he sat on my bed. But nothing else happened. He didn't have a real reaction to my actions (at least not that I could see...lol), and after a little time going he got up and went to his own bed and we fell asleep. That was years ago and we have continued to have the same kind of relationship.
Lately though, I have noticed that when he gives me a hello or goodbye hug (which we always do) he looks into my eyes more than he used to and it almost feels like he wants to come in for a kiss. But, I think I might be just imagining things, as he does it even when he is over my house with a female date. We have a lot of friends in common and I am a bit nervous about what might happen if I was to go in for a kiss and see what happens. Btw, he has on a number of times, kissed me on the cheek, but he hasn't done that for a bit. Would he get upset? Would he go out and say anything? Would things get awkward.

Curious and confused.
« Last Edit: May 26, 2019, 10:00:57 PM by HanCalGuy »

May 29, 2019, 02:15:23 AM
Reply #1


I have a vague memory that straight people are actually 85% straight, 15% lesbian or gay. Since 15% is so small part, many of them just *Think in their mind*. An example is: I used to have a female friend who was interested in becoming a bi. But when I asked her for more details, like who to find, should she look among friends, and what to do, details like only kissing or sex, she hesitated. At last she told me it was a bad idea and she will never take the action.
So maybe you two only have thoughts, imaginations since they are fun, crazy.
But will he really DO it?

May 29, 2019, 08:03:08 PM
Reply #2


Well that didn't help to make me feel less confused.  lol

Oh well. 

May 31, 2019, 04:28:37 AM
Reply #3


I say just go for it, you only live once

June 01, 2019, 09:44:13 AM
Reply #4



So should I just go in and kiss the guy on the lips or should I start off giving him a kiss on the cheek?


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