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Author Topic: Am I in a sexless relationship

March 28, 2019, 06:09:15 PM
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I have been with my partner for nearly four years. I absolutely worship the ground he walks on and love him more than anything. When we first got together the sex was frequent two years down the line we haven’t been intimate or had any sex for over two years. My partner suffers from depression and I can understand this he is on pills and his mojo is never there. I have now stopped trying for fear of rejection, that it’s me I’m ugly not good in bed all sorts of things whirl round my head. The problem I have is this happened in all my relationships hence the reason why I feel the way I do. They weren’t depressed but the sex just didn’t happen. I don’t want to lose my partner I love him but I’m not sure what to do, as he has said about it but I say it’s not a problem but I know it is and if i say that, it will make him feel worse. I need advice of where to go from here as I’m feeling very low and unsure of my relationship. Two years ago we were planning marriage and kids now we rarely talk about any of that.

March 31, 2019, 04:42:54 PM
Reply #1


There is a possibility he is just unhappy and not willing to man up to it. Does he talk to you much about that sort of thing? Does he/has he sought counciling?

March 31, 2019, 05:02:16 PM
Reply #2


I'd really recommend https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/

It has helped so many people with similar questions

May 14, 2019, 07:34:55 PM
Reply #3


I would talk to him about it ..He shouldn't get mad about it . Im in a relationship going on 7 years and i get sex maybe once a month from him thats if im lucky .

May 15, 2019, 03:12:05 AM
Reply #4


I would have a long talk with him and discuss ways of spicing things up if this could help

May 24, 2019, 06:31:39 AM
Reply #5


I can seriously understand how you must be feeling and what all things you must be going through. I myself was going through the same phase couple of months back. I m in a relationship from 3 years & from a year we are not having any action. Sometimes in a month we would have it if I am lucky but I love him & he loves me too. I cant think of cheating him but as a women even I have some needs & wants. So I came to know about this online Sex Toys Store which is quite famous. Sunny leone is the brand ambassador. I went to their website & found a desirable sex toy which is a wireless vibrator. Now when ever I feel any urge I use it. This helps me be loyal as well as satisfied. Remember the name [Imbesharam.com]

May 24, 2019, 03:23:32 PM
Reply #6


I am really sorry.
But you don't have no one choice except speak with hip about it.

May 25, 2019, 01:32:08 PM
Reply #7


Hey I understand where u are coming from. I am on depression pills too. And it affects me also. The side effects are horrible. As a man, it affects my performance and libido. I am currently not in a relationship. But I understand. Sexual activity is almost painful when u are on those meds.  Hate to say but erectile dysfunction pills do help the situation. But i think the best way is to try to date him again. Go out and have fun. And get used to liking each other again. I think what is happened is u guys got complacent with each other. Do nice things for him. Make him dinner. Buy him a treat and tell him u did it because you love him. The romance has to be there in order for there to be intimacy. Rediscover each other. Tell him how u feel.

May 28, 2019, 03:12:06 PM
Reply #8


Different depression medications can affect people in different ways. You could try other depression medications to see if anything helps the problem.

June 01, 2019, 05:29:46 AM
Reply #9


Have a deep conversation with him. Ask him to talk to you with 100% honesty, in a private comfortable area.

June 22, 2019, 09:43:27 AM
Reply #10


Feel your pain. Mental health unfortunately seems to
be all about drugs. Unfortunately the rejection and fear
of rejection, anger and resentment, are going to eat away
at your mental well being. Get it out in the open, seek
help for you and him and if you can't work it out move on.
You deserve to be happy. Good luck, fighting the same battle.


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