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February 17, 2020, 06:51:38 PM
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Boots


I’m having a bit of a struggle with something here and I would appreciate some honesty, I’m fine being in the wrong or being crazy. I just want to know so I can look to move on with myself. On Saturday my girlfriend mentioned a male friend and I’m not sure what it was but I felt a little insecure. I felt I was being stupid! I asked if I had anything to worry about and if I could have some reassurance cos I thought I was being an idiot. She didn’t react well and said she has male friends and she will always have them and will always speak to them. I agreed with this! I think it’s really healthy to have friends of the opposite sex, I felt bad because I really just needed a bit of reassurance that I was being an idiot. We spoke about this and she told me I was being an idiot (rightly so). She said she messaged him with a 🙂 smiley face and spoke to him. I asked if she used any flirty emojis with him like 🥰😘😍♥️ (Hearts kisses love heart eyes etc) and she said of course not! I felt like such an idiot! Fast forward two days and I saw that she commented on his instagram picture with a 😘 emoji and he replied with 😘😍. I told her that I felt a little bad about this and it made me feel insecure. And she says I’m really crazy now, I said I don’t think I’m crazy, I looked online about flirting emojis and 😘 is mentioned a lot. I think I am right to feel a little bothered by what I saw but I didn’t accuse her of anything, I just said it made me uncomfortable. She keeps saying that I’m crazy and I’m not right and if people knew about this they would laugh at me. Am I crazy here? It’s worse because we spoke a few months back about flirting and being loyal and we both agreed really strongly about not putting those emojis to people. And I’m sat here thinking... it’s a bloody emoji... get a grip. Please help me!

February 18, 2020, 05:59:37 PM
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Slacker22


are you normally a jealous person? I am

February 18, 2020, 09:54:45 PM
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Boots


I’m not usually really a jealous person! I think I’m quite reasonable and rational usually  :'(

March 05, 2020, 09:51:13 AM
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crazyduud


I understand the feeling.. Try to determine how she reacts on other persons in her comments would be the best imo

March 09, 2020, 02:39:17 PM
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ShortEdw


I’m having a bit of a struggle with something here and I would appreciate some honesty, I’m fine being in the wrong or being crazy. I just want to know so I can look to move on with myself. On Saturday my girlfriend mentioned a male friend and I’m not sure what it was but I felt a little insecure. I felt I was being stupid! I asked if I had anything to worry about and if I could have some reassurance cos I thought I was being an idiot. She didn’t react well and said she has male friends and she will always have them and will always speak to them. I agreed with this! I think it’s really healthy to have friends of the opposite sex, I felt bad because I really just needed a bit of reassurance that I was being an idiot. We spoke about this and she told me I was being an idiot (rightly so). She said she messaged him with a 🙂 smiley face and spoke to him. I asked if she used any flirty emojis with him like 🥰😘😍♥️ (Hearts kisses love heart eyes etc) and she said of course not! I felt like such an idiot! Fast forward two days and I saw that she commented on his instagram picture with a 😘 emoji and he replied with 😘😍. I told her that I felt a little bad about this and it made me feel insecure. And she says I’m really crazy now, I said I don’t think I’m crazy, I looked online about flirting emojis and 😘 is mentioned a lot. I think I am right to feel a little bothered by what I saw but I didn’t accuse her of anything, I just said it made me uncomfortable. She keeps saying that I’m crazy and I’m not right and if people knew about this they would laugh at me. Am I crazy here? It’s worse because we spoke a few months back about flirting and being loyal and we both agreed really strongly about not putting those emojis to people. And I’m sat here thinking... it’s a bloody emoji... get a grip. Please help me!
tell me how long have you been together? I think if you don't like it and you resent it it's okay I'm the same! And I want to say if she doesn't make such small requests for you that you're not nervous about it and not jealous then she's not right! Here I am with my girl already together for almost 4 months! and if I ask her not to make me nervous or do things that I would be jealous of! She understood me and tries to prevent this from happening! Because she values me and my peace of mind! These are the things each( it seems to me you don't appreciate ) write me interested in your opinion!

March 14, 2020, 04:56:35 PM
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Confused L


I'm probably not the right person to give advice on this as in my situation I was on the other end of this I was the friend not the boyfriend. I didn't know they were together of that she even liked him like that but I did know he liked her like that. I should also mention that we were all friends who met online she lives in England me and the other guy both live in America in different states on opposite sides of the country. With that being said we flirted through text and she sent me those emojis all the time I liked her more than a friend and I thought she like me more than a friend as well. I was apparently wrong as I found out a month later that she lied and lead me on. My advice is for your girlfriend to be careful because even if she only sees him as a friend he might get see it differently and end up getting hurt like I did.

March 15, 2020, 02:49:30 PM
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UmOkay123


If she's your girlfriend and she's sending kissing face emojis to other guys, that's a red flag to me. It seems that she's playing games with you and likes the attention. I suggest you sit down with her and have a talk about mutual boundaries. If she's okay with you doing what she did to the other guy, then maybe you should downgrade from a relationship to FWB. If she doesn't think what she did was flirting (I would absolutely consider sending kissing face emojis as flirting), then unfortunately you two are not on the same page and the relationship probably won't work. My personal opinion is she's on a high horse and likes the attention and creating jealousy.

March 17, 2020, 08:21:55 AM
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LilyPouille


I think UmOkay123 is right at some point, she might like to see you get jealous to prove that you care about her. It is not the most healthy way to ask for attention, but she did it anyway.

But, but --> you told her that you are not okay with this, but she still does it! You try to communicate with her but she doesn't really care and told you, that you are an idiot.
I think you should really talk to know if both of you are in the same page!

I would like to still say that even if you're using ''flirting emoji'' as you call it, for some (like me) it doesn't mean anything!!
Live. Just live.

March 17, 2020, 03:58:50 PM
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Confused L


@LilyPouille I suggest you be careful with those flirty emojis as there are a lot of dumbass guys like me who are stupid and might take those emojis the wrong way and end up getting hurt. :'(

March 18, 2020, 08:48:58 AM
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LilyPouille


I don't think you are being stupid over the fact that a girl uses flirting emoji, i understand why. It's just that we should know the girl more, about how she texts and how she responds to messages. Because if she uses a lot of emoji, then it doesn't mean anything , I'm exactly the same. But if the guy don't feel comfortable about this and this make him feel insecure, she should not take this lighlty.
Having a good conversation without saying it's the other fault and trying to understand what's happening is the best solution (again for me!)
Live. Just live.

March 30, 2020, 08:05:33 AM
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sparker


Seems like a red flag to me.
I personally wouldnt send my guy friends kissing face emoji. I think that crosses the line but in saying that maybe thats how they have always talked and she is shocked that you would think anything of it.

 

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