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November 20, 2019, 03:36:43 AM
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Looking for a consensus - last night my partner accused me of "getting lazy" and couldn't understand / "didn't care" why that upset me and cause an argument. Here is my last 24hrs, am I getting lazy?

5.30am Wake up

6-7am Do an hours work from home

7-8.30am Shower, pack bag, walk dog, wash up and go to work

9am-2pm Work

2pm - 4.30pm Head home to keep partner company on my lunch break (she is off work sick) then head to an hours appointment.

4.30-5.30pm Work

5.30-5.50pm Travel home - traffic

5.50pm-6.20pm Stand and chat while she makes dinner. Facetime my son, eat together

6.20pm-6.40pm Wash Up alone, step son arrives for the night

6.40pm-7pm Sit with partner and step son until he goes to bed, check phone, kiss goodnight.

7pm-8pm Clear out understairs cupboard and rearrange

8pm Make hot drinks for both and sit down

8pm-9pm Sit with partner while she is on phone and watches her choice of tv

9pm -9.30pm Give partner back rub while she looks at her phone

9.30-10pm Partner has a bath, I shut down the house and then watch 20mins of tv on my phone on the bed.

10pm-10.20pm Wash before bed

10.20pm-10.40pm Walk the dog

10.40pm Settle into bed, "your getting lazy"

5.30am Wake up to step son (always up at 5.30am)

6am Do an hours work from home

Is this person getting lazy? Keeping in mind my partner has not worked for 3 months due to illness.

November 20, 2019, 03:58:26 AM
Reply #1


I would have stopped doing what I was doing and made her realise how much work you do

November 21, 2019, 03:57:19 PM
Reply #2


Deadlift, could she have been kidding?  If you're sure that she wasn't, then I think that you were justified in being a little put off about it.  With her illness, maybe it's a bad day, but sounds like you are definitely putting the best foot forward.  I wouldn't let it slide, but I also wouldn't grind it out either.  Did you ask her what she meant by the comment?  Ask her to explain where your efforts aren't meeting her expectation.  That answer will be the one you will have to decide to be upset about, or not.

Good luck.


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