When a foreign ex-girlfriend and I broke up, we decided to keep our friendship. We know it’s a journey to get to the comfortable stage of our friendship but we kept that door open. However, when we talked the other day she sounded like she doesn’t want to be friends with me anymore. I honestly don’t know how I feel about it. I don’t want to get back together with her anymore but I really do want to be her friend. She’s a nice person and I want to keep her in my life. Should I just stop communicating with her? Do I just close the door for any friendship between us? Help me please.

I think having to abandon your friendship with someone when the relationship comes to an end is honestly the most upsetting thing.

After all of these weeks, months, years, not only did you establish a relationship, but also a very strong friendship.

Some people (like me) prefer to not me friends after a relationship has broken up, in fact, I don't want any contact at all - but that's to protect myself from falling in love again and being heartbroken.

If she doesn't want to be friends, you need to ensure that you receive that closure properly, so you can move on.

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Quote from: Support on June 03, 2018, 11:59:31 AM

Quote from: sampson82 on June 01, 2018, 02:18:11 AM

When a foreign ex-girlfriend and I broke up, we decided to keep our friendship. We know it’s a journey to get to the comfortable stage of our friendship but we kept that door open. However, when we talked the other day she sounded like she doesn’t want to be friends with me anymore. I honestly don’t know how I feel about it. I don’t want to get back together with her anymore but I really do want to be her friend. She’s a nice person and I want to keep her in my life. Should I just stop communicating with her? Do I just close the door for any friendship between us? Help me please.

I think having to abandon your friendship with someone when the relationship comes to an end is honestly the most upsetting thing.

After all of these weeks, months, years, not only did you establish a relationship, but also a very strong friendship.

Some people (like me) prefer to not me friends after a relationship has broken up, in fact, I don't want any contact at all - but that's to protect myself from falling in love again and being heartbroken.

If she doesn't want to be friends, you need to ensure that you receive that closure properly, so you can move on.

Sighh. Yes. Thanks so much for the kind words. I just had to hear another person's point of view on this.

Your welcome, any other questions, ask away! 

That is her choice, you can't do anything about that.  It's really hard to keep the friendship, what more if she was your ex girlfriend.  You should respect her decision and maybe she's now with someone and don't want to ruin that relationship, I think she's avoiding the possible issues.

It means she still loves you, we have the same story, I've dated him in a year maybe we broke up last 3months ago, after break up I thought he will mesaage me like the way he always did for the past one year but I was wrong in two months he never messaged me then on july one during my birthday he said "happy birthday" to me, I was shocked and dont know what to answer him then eventually I just replied thanks.. then one of this days he also said he wants to remain as a friend with me then I said no. better never show his face again to me, so I decided to cut all our contacts to forget. even I stopped using social media to forget. . I dont want to see him, I want to forget and forgive and I want to move on and live it's because I cant afford to lose my life just to save a relationship that wont ever go back, also I am sick, my heart isnt stable, I got hurt easily since kid then the reasult was it's kinda painful nowadays and so hard to breathe. so maybe not just to stop loving is the solution but stop loving anyone to live longer because all the people I love are killing me slightly in a painful ways.