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June 01, 2018, 02:18:11 AM
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sampson82


When a foreign ex-girlfriend and I broke up, we decided to keep our friendship. We know it’s a journey to get to the comfortable stage of our friendship but we kept that door open. However, when we talked the other day she sounded like she doesn’t want to be friends with me anymore. I honestly don’t know how I feel about it. I don’t want to get back together with her anymore but I really do want to be her friend. She’s a nice person and I want to keep her in my life. Should I just stop communicating with her? Do I just close the door for any friendship between us? Help me please.

June 03, 2018, 11:59:31 AM
Reply #1

Staff

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When a foreign ex-girlfriend and I broke up, we decided to keep our friendship. We know it’s a journey to get to the comfortable stage of our friendship but we kept that door open. However, when we talked the other day she sounded like she doesn’t want to be friends with me anymore. I honestly don’t know how I feel about it. I don’t want to get back together with her anymore but I really do want to be her friend. She’s a nice person and I want to keep her in my life. Should I just stop communicating with her? Do I just close the door for any friendship between us? Help me please.

I think having to abandon your friendship with someone when the relationship comes to an end is honestly the most upsetting thing.

After all of these weeks, months, years, not only did you establish a relationship, but also a very strong friendship.

Some people (like me) prefer to not me friends after a relationship has broken up, in fact, I don't want any contact at all - but that's to protect myself from falling in love again and being heartbroken.

If she doesn't want to be friends, you need to ensure that you receive that closure properly, so you can move on.
Your friendly neighborhood moderator.=)

June 04, 2018, 02:54:38 AM
Reply #2

sampson82


Than
When a foreign ex-girlfriend and I broke up, we decided to keep our friendship. We know it’s a journey to get to the comfortable stage of our friendship but we kept that door open. However, when we talked the other day she sounded like she doesn’t want to be friends with me anymore. I honestly don’t know how I feel about it. I don’t want to get back together with her anymore but I really do want to be her friend. She’s a nice person and I want to keep her in my life. Should I just stop communicating with her? Do I just close the door for any friendship between us? Help me please.

I think having to abandon your friendship with someone when the relationship comes to an end is honestly the most upsetting thing.

After all of these weeks, months, years, not only did you establish a relationship, but also a very strong friendship.

Some people (like me) prefer to not me friends after a relationship has broken up, in fact, I don't want any contact at all - but that's to protect myself from falling in love again and being heartbroken.

If she doesn't want to be friends, you need to ensure that you receive that closure properly, so you can move on.

Sighh. Yes. Thanks so much for the kind words. I just had to hear another person's point of view on this.

June 04, 2018, 05:10:06 PM
Reply #3

Staff

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Than
When a foreign ex-girlfriend and I broke up, we decided to keep our friendship. We know it’s a journey to get to the comfortable stage of our friendship but we kept that door open. However, when we talked the other day she sounded like she doesn’t want to be friends with me anymore. I honestly don’t know how I feel about it. I don’t want to get back together with her anymore but I really do want to be her friend. She’s a nice person and I want to keep her in my life. Should I just stop communicating with her? Do I just close the door for any friendship between us? Help me please.

I think having to abandon your friendship with someone when the relationship comes to an end is honestly the most upsetting thing.

After all of these weeks, months, years, not only did you establish a relationship, but also a very strong friendship.

Some people (like me) prefer to not me friends after a relationship has broken up, in fact, I don't want any contact at all - but that's to protect myself from falling in love again and being heartbroken.

If she doesn't want to be friends, you need to ensure that you receive that closure properly, so you can move on.

Sighh. Yes. Thanks so much for the kind words. I just had to hear another person's point of view on this.

Your welcome, any other questions, ask away!  :D
Your friendly neighborhood moderator.=)

July 20, 2018, 04:54:48 PM
Reply #4

Martinsx


When a foreign ex-girlfriend and I broke up, we decided to keep our friendship. We know it’s a journey to get to the comfortable stage of our friendship but we kept that door open. However, when we talked the other day she sounded like she doesn’t want to be friends with me anymore. I honestly don’t know how I feel about it. I don’t want to get back together with her anymore but I really do want to be her friend. She’s a nice person and I want to keep her in my life. Should I just stop communicating with her? Do I just close the door for any friendship between us? Help me please.

Depending on the circumstances that led to the breakup in the relationship is what would determine whether I'm going to be friends or still want to be friends with my ex after we must have broken up.

Take for instance with my experience in my relationship with my ex girlfriend. She wanted to get married and I wasn't ready then, in fact I don't have the financial capability and capacity to get married then, so I had to let her go and she did understood my reasons for letting her go. We are still friends till today, although I try to keep my communication with her limited in order not to put her in a tight spot with her husband.

But if you broke up with your ex girlfriend in a harsh manner, I would suggest that you take out friendship relationship with her because you are adding more insult to the injury.

July 21, 2018, 04:05:44 PM
Reply #5

ion


That is her choice, you can't do anything about that.  It's really hard to keep the friendship, what more if she was your ex girlfriend.  You should respect her decision and maybe she's now with someone and don't want to ruin that relationship, I think she's avoiding the possible issues.

July 21, 2018, 04:50:10 PM
Reply #6

jaymish


Good riddance to bad rubbish I say. Why would you want to be friends with someone who does not want to be your friend? If the person does not like you or no longer wants to associate with you, let them go I say, you will find a better friend. Your ex also must have their reasons, for not wanting to be your friend. Maybe they look you too much or not enough. You just have to learn to move on and trust that everything happens for the best.


August 02, 2018, 04:30:40 PM
Reply #7

orfia


It means she still loves you, we have the same story, I've dated him in a year maybe we broke up last 3months ago, after break up I thought he will mesaage me like the way he always did for the past one year but I was wrong in two months he never messaged me then on july one during my birthday he said "happy birthday" to me, I was shocked and dont know what to answer him then eventually I just replied thanks.. then one of this days he also said he wants to remain as a friend with me then I said no. better never show his face again to me, so I decided to cut all our contacts to forget. even I stopped using social media to forget. . I dont want to see him, I want to forget and forgive and I want to move on and live it's because I cant afford to lose my life just to save a relationship that wont ever go back, also I am sick, my heart isnt stable, I got hurt easily since kid then the reasult was it's kinda painful nowadays and so hard to breathe. so maybe not just to stop loving is the solution but stop loving anyone to live longer because all the people I love are killing me slightly in a painful ways.

August 05, 2018, 03:40:02 PM
Reply #8

QueenFarLou


I have a feeling that she is with someone right now who doesn't like the idea that she is still speaking with an ex. Maybe give her time because if she really values your friendship she will eventually reach out to you.

 

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