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February 26, 2019, 04:03:48 AM
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Johntimothy


Me and my wife have been married 10 years. She doesn’t want to talk about are problems or just talk about each other. She says she is tired or we will talk about it later. We had good times and bad but this past year she has been distant. She don’t seem to want to try and fix are marriage and now she says she wants to have more friends and go out with them more. She has been spending a lot of time a work now and she seems to only think about work. I don’t have the best friend I used to. Sex life isn’t great and definitely not exciting like it was. I don’t think she is cheating but maybe she don’t love me anymore? Oh and she is on her phone All the time and hard to even get her to notice I’m home. Please any add vice  would help or if you need more info I’d gladly tell you

March 01, 2019, 03:51:51 PM
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Lawrence


Sorry to hear about the troubles. Sucks to see such a long term relationship end up like that. Is there anything you can think of that might have led to this state of affairs? When my relationship (later marriage) went south it was for many reasons but I think over the years I gained at least a basic idea of what those reasons were.

I was actually about to ask you if you suspect her of cheating since her behavior really seems to fit that "profile" but since you don't think so, maybe you can rule that out for now. Maybe she still loves you on some level but the love she originally had for you just isn't there anymore or it's buried under all kinds of other issues.

Since she's been uninterested in talking about the marriage and fixing it, chances are that you'll have to get the ball rolling yourself. Focus on improving yourself a bit. Women (I think) find a man that takes good care of himself to be attractive in more ways than one. Hit the gym, get ripped, improve your social life, do better at work, etc. Also try to take her out to places that are fun and interesting (both with friends and just you two). Things you've never done before and also since places you love that have meaning to you two. It'll be one sided at first but maybe she'll see that you're making an effort with actions (not just words) and it'll rub off on her. Maybe just don't mention the whole "fixing things" so much. That could push her away faster. Maybe she needs time to be ready to confront that.

Anyways best of luck.

March 26, 2019, 04:22:34 PM
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Tehilah27


The truth is that people evolve and their thoughts and interests change. Begin to court your wife again and get interested in the things that interest her. If she is always on the phone then get in the habit of sending her fun messages via text or social media. The truth is that it will be difficult but be persistent.

You might Also need to sit her down and have a heart to heart with her. Don't be confrontational and don't be overly emotional either. Get to know where her head is so you can know where to begin and how to proceed. Wishing you the best

March 27, 2019, 04:25:00 PM
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Inojoking


Thus sucks. My exact situation but divorce has been filed. Try to fix it now bud before it's to late.

 

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