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December 21, 2018, 04:54:53 PM
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sexyitaliantiger


Hello,

I have been seeing this older women for about 5 years now. There is a 13 year age difference. For the record, I am a single dad of 2 young teenage daughters. She is a colleague at work. She likes to invite me out to dance and coffee dates on a pretty regular basis.

She is smart, independant, active and takes good care of herself.
She is a workaholic and is very motivated by money.
She is very close to her own mother that is living independently in her mid-nineties.
She has been married a long time ago but never had or wanted any kids.

I never had a very close "friendship" with a women like that. She ALWAYS responds when calling her to TEXTING her even when very busy she gift signs of life, which I like alot from her.

I feel very lucky to have anyone like this in my life.
She sometimes makes fun comments about my age, sometimes makes veiled threats that our friendship would be over if I don't confirm our plans for the week-end. She encourages me to see and date other women and has tried to fix-me up with other acquantances of hers.

We work for the same school, we are both teachers but for different departments.
She seems to see a "revolving" door of men, has online profiles on several sites.
She has told me so much.

She has invited me to her birthday and asked my to dress-up and bring a few items.
She told me last week that she had a new "italian" boyfriend for the past 6 months. She even showed me his picture. I am italian-canadian. This is the first time that I heard her mention this new "guy".

If I don't see him tomorrow to her birthday party, I will not take it seriously.

What should I make of it ? Is she getting some kind of pleasure by trying to "hurt" me with "snarky" or "passive-aggressive" remarks ?

I feel that I am treated as a puppet on a leash.

Comments ?

Paul

December 22, 2018, 04:13:05 AM
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alymae


Hi. Why would you feel like a puppet on a leash? It seems to me that she cares for you as a friend. She really thinks of you as someone close to her heart. I think this attitude is like a sister taking care of his brother. You mentioned that you are younger, I think he sees you as a younger sibling and nothing more. Just enjoy your time with her. She seems to be a good friend. Do you like her? If you like her, then, it is up to you if you tell her. Did she tell you she has feelings for you?

December 22, 2018, 05:26:35 AM
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sexyitaliantiger


She has told me before that she does not want to have sex with me.
She has said that she feels that I am like a brother to her. She has 2 other brothers and a sister all older than her.

She has a "revolving" door of "dates" but nothing realy seems to come of it. She is very communicative and responsive. We have what I would call a "polarised" relationship, meaning that we each live seperately and do our own thing.

Some times she is rude and says passive-aggressive things.
SHe has told me that she had a sexual fatasy about me and has tried to manipulate me into it, but nothing ever came out of it.

There is quite an age difference of 13 years. NEvertheless, I feel that she is an attractive woman but that she can show her age. With proper make-up and hair coloring she can pass as much younger.
I think she can be every mans dream women, she is slim, she is blond, she is independant , smart, communicative, she has her own house, SUV and a vacation home deep on a plot of land in the woods hidden from the road. I feel she is very guttsy to go to that farm land. AS far as I can tell she lives alone.

I am open to have other children and getting married of living with another partner, moving on with my life, but she is content the ways things are. She encourages me to see other women. I feel that she can be distant in that respect.

Confused !!!!

Paul

December 22, 2018, 01:38:19 PM
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Tehilah27


Hi, it sounds like she is only interested in seeing you as a friend rather than being in a sexual relationship. Perhaps you should respect this and make the most of her friendship. Different people come into our lives for different reasons and to serve different purposes. Enjoy the friendship with her and I'm sure you'll find the perfect woman for you.

December 23, 2018, 09:57:56 AM
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menchuuy58


Hello,

I have been seeing this older women for about 5 years now. There is a 13 year age difference. For the record, I am a single dad of 2 young teenage daughters. She is a colleague at work. She likes to invite me out to dance and coffee dates on a pretty regular basis.

She is smart, independant, active and takes good care of herself.
She is a workaholic and is very motivated by money.
She is very close to her own mother that is living independently in her mid-nineties.
She has been married a long time ago but never had or wanted any kids.

I never had a very close "friendship" with a women like that. She ALWAYS responds when calling her to TEXTING her even when very busy she gift signs of life, which I like alot from her.

I feel very lucky to have anyone like this in my life.
She sometimes makes fun comments about my age, sometimes makes veiled threats that our friendship would be over if I don't confirm our plans for the week-end. She encourages me to see and date other women and has tried to fix-me up with other acquantances of hers.

We work for the same school, we are both teachers but for different departments.
She seems to see a "revolving" door of men, has online profiles on several sites.
She has told me so much.

She has invited me to her birthday and asked my to dress-up and bring a few items.
She told me last week that she had a new "italian" boyfriend for the past 6 months. She even showed me his picture. I am italian-canadian. This is the first time that I heard her mention this new "guy".

If I don't see him tomorrow to her birthday party, I will not take it seriously.

What should I make of it ? Is she getting some kind of pleasure by trying to "hurt" me with "snarky" or "passive-aggressive" remarks ?

I feel that I am treated as a puppet on a leash.

Comments ?

Paul
Thanks Paul for sharing your love story with us. I can sense your confusion. If I were you, I will talk to her my feelings and intentions. It is up to her to respond. That means if you really love and care for her you will do something to let her know your heart.

December 23, 2018, 01:30:24 PM
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ghednepo


Thanks Bro for your story, I think you should let the time decide. I think if she love you she cannot resist you, she will not do something that will hurt. Bro you can pray, Ask God and tell him all your problems i promise you will be refresh and have a clear mind :D

 

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