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Author Topic: Very hard decision

April 21, 2019, 10:29:08 PM
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My bf lives in another state, but we got involved long before he had to move for work.  Recently it's become apparent we want to be together and he is the love of my life. Lately we have discussed me moving there. However,  it's a place I have wanted to live a long time because I have family and friends there, too.
The trouble is my mother lives near by and she is starting to get older. I'm an only child. She has a boyfriend herself so I wouldn't be leaving her all alone but she would be very angry if I move.  I am in my 40s and never married and no kids.  I have found the man I've waited my whole life to find. If I don't move I will lose him. I don't think my mother would also want to move away. I don't know what to do.

April 26, 2019, 02:10:18 AM
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How far away does your bf live? Your mom will not get any younger, but neither will you. Ending your relationship may cause hurt and resentment with your mother. If she wants to move, GREAT! If not, come back and visit as often as you can. Skype, facetime, talk on the phone often. It's not the same, by a long shot; but if you're happy, your mom should be happy for you. What does your bf think about the situation? Is there a chance he could or would want to be transferred back closer to your mom? Do you have any job prospects where he is? Moving is a big commitment, but if both of you are ready and willing to close the gap, why wait? Good luck in whatever you decide!


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