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March 17, 2019, 08:04:12 PM
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Eva


Married in a ldr but cos of a lack of sexual conversation, alwsys busy, no time for each other. Some days I just want to get a friends with benefit and other times I don't. I haven't done it but it's been weighing on my mind. Yes I've spoke to him about how it makes me feel and all that and still no progress. Help me make the right decisions.

April 01, 2019, 07:16:41 PM
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Danni81


Hey i new here :).

My long distance relationship makes me feel a little depressed when we sometimes talk on Line and she says "i miss you a lot" every time she say that it makes me sad and upset. But sometimes it gives me energy at work and saving up to see her and travel to dk.     

The positive side about it is seeing the person after some months.   

I think it depends how dedicated the both parties are to making the relationship work. 

I have done a lot to get my girlfriend here. Actually sold my pickup truck to save up.   

While my girlfriend sold her gold  to save up.


April 02, 2019, 02:57:27 AM
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Eva


Thanks for sharing your views Danni.
It is really hard and one of the hardest things I've ever done in my life. Are you both living together now.

April 11, 2019, 07:56:48 PM
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strawberryfields4ever


It makes me feel stressed that it will never mature into a forever relationship.  There are so many elements to sort through.  It's hard to figure out what a person is feeling when communication is primarily through phone and text.

April 13, 2019, 01:12:28 AM
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katlunara


I've been in many long distance relationships. They're all really hard to maintain. For one they didn't go anywhere, and even if there was hope in the relationship it was a strain. Like seeing the other person once every few months.
I'm always trying my best to help. I may not be the best, just know that i have tried.

April 21, 2019, 05:23:05 PM
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Purple


A little sad sometimes. Very happy other times. It's a rollercoaster of emotions.

June 30, 2019, 03:21:51 PM
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ben


It sucks for the person left alon.  Even after ten years of marriage and two kids, I still can't stand it.  She spends 2-3 months away with the kids every year visiting family, whom I can't stand, and its like bamboo under the fingernails.  The most important thing in my life is my wife and kids... when that's gone, it's like the biggest part of me is removed.  Feal lost and less than... shittiest part of my life is also the one that brings me the most joy.  A rough existence. 

July 27, 2019, 09:37:30 AM
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Anxiety


It feels like the best thing ever and the worst thing at the same time.
The fact you have a special connection with someone you love but not being able to act upon it, as in doing the day to day things together is hard.
Some days are better then others, LDR is not for everyone and both parties should be equal when it comes to commitment and effort and be completely honest about their expectations of the relationship.

October 06, 2019, 01:20:29 PM
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Johnn


I have had such kind of relationship with the girl I met here I think it is really really hard and there is a risk you can meet a new person & go to dating. If the new one is good enough, it will be the end of your relationship. 
 

October 14, 2019, 05:50:44 PM
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lonelygirl005


Hey, I’m new but I’ve been in a ldr before and it wasn’t the best experience.

I feel like it takes a specific pair of people to really make a ldr work. It’s hard and takes a lot of commitment from both parties. It will be very difficult at times and that’s why it takes dedication also. The two people need to have a lot of will power.

In the end, if it dosent work out it wasn’t meant to be. And in my opinion, no matter in what kind of relationship, if you start having doubts , consult your partner and talk about it because the other person probably has the same concerns. It relies a lot on communication and trust.

Always remember that if a relationship is holding you back from being your true self, there is plenty of other fish in the sea.

I hope this helps someone :)

October 16, 2019, 04:45:35 PM
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Veronica


I'm in a lgr now. We've been together for 3 years. It's really the most difficult situation to be in. And i don't wish it to anyone.
I have a question for you though. What was his response when you told him that you're not sexually open and would like for the 2 of you to openly talk about it. Because my boyfriend is somewhat the same. He doesn't feel secure talking about sex or exchanging pictures over the phone for privacy purposes. I don't get it but I chose to respect his opinion. You might need to know why he's not being enthusiastic towards it.

October 24, 2019, 11:50:08 PM
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jennp98


My long distance relationship makes me sad for the present, but excited for the future.  I get really upset when my boyfriend is down in the dumps about something and I can't be his source of happiness, but it makes me excited for the future because I know that a day will come where I will get to hold him every night and be there for him when he needs me.

November 03, 2019, 03:53:39 AM
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curiouslemon


I’m in my current longest relationship, and after about two weeks in, I had to travel for three months. It was rough- being away from him, but we kept in contact, and it’s over a year and we’re still happy. It’s sad, and hard, but just keep in contact- video calls help especially. You’ll see them eventually- stay strong!

November 03, 2019, 05:59:26 AM
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Rowain


Hi,

I'm new as well guys. I'm always worrying that the guy i'm seeing will find it too hard and leave me.

November 12, 2019, 06:36:24 PM
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Vince


I will suggest to set a MUST videochat. Of course there are exception but at first you gotta do that! No excuses. Talk together and find a win/win solution

November 13, 2019, 10:27:51 PM
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When we truly care we make it happen no matter what! No matter if we are oceans apart of each other, we always find a way.
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November 22, 2019, 08:01:43 AM
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Konstanty Wiśniewski


A little sad sometimes. Very happy other times. It's a rollercoaster of emotions.

November 29, 2019, 05:40:25 AM
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diana9


Married in a ldr but cos of a lack of sexual conversation, alwsys busy, no time for each other. Some days I just want to get a friends with benefit and other times I don't. I haven't done it but it's been weighing on my mind. Yes I've spoke to him about how it makes me feel and all that and still no progress. Help me make the right decisions.

why do you wnat to find a friends with benefit?

December 05, 2019, 01:43:10 AM
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JasonH


I started on about a month ago, didn't expect to have one but there seemed to be something special about her.  I knew that it is going to take a bit before we even see each physically so I am trying to keep things progressing slowly and suggesting the same to her.  Wanting something(physical) too much will only force one to go the the other too soon, and push the relationship to a point that it is not ready for yet.  This is just me but only seeing pictures and writing it seems like the way to go.

January 07, 2020, 10:43:00 AM
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Deesiree


Hi Eva,

I can understand what you're going through. LDR is hard itself, and when a lack of sexual intimacy kicks in, things can go irrevocably wrong -- true for any relationship really, but even more so in a LDR where two people are hugely dependent on how they communicate their feelings. Sexting, trading naughty photos, phone sex, steamy Skype calls, are all part of what makes up the sexual universe of a LDR couple.

You say you are busy and have no time for each other -- I think that's not a LDR problem per se, but a through and through relationship issue. If your partner isn't willing to do anything about it despite you telling him how you feel, there are probably deeper issues you guys might have to sort out. I have my own issues in LDR so I know how important this is.

Finally, a friends with benefits is a temporary solution, if it's one at all. It might help you look the other side for a while and take your mind off the problems, but trust me at the end of the day, you'll be just as miserable if you and your partner fail to be on the same page.

So my advice -- talk to him again, and give him an ultimatum if needed. 

February 02, 2020, 07:30:23 AM
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SomeGuy


I would never do one again. They're nearly always relationships based on deception. Being on the other side of the world and expecting a woman you only see maybe for a couple of weeks every couple on months not to explore and expand her options is very naive and stupid. The first month of constant texting and video chatting is quite exciting but it ramps down after that and you will not be able to get hold of her as often. Then the worry and paranoia kicks in. There might be some women you can trust well enough to enter an LDR with but they are far and few between.

 

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