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July 23, 2018, 02:44:58 PM
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NesMarcos


Distance really plays a big part for two people who love deeply each other. When you love someone, you always want that person to be with you no matter what happens however, what would you do if you are hundreds or even thousands of miles away? How can you make your relationship work?

I've been in a long distance relationship for years now and I can say that it is not easy to be in this kind of relationship. Two people should be fully committed to each other for the relationship work. Trust, understanding, honesty and patience should always be present and most specifically, love. It should never fade no matter what happens...

For years, from day one up to this day, we always call on the phone and we never let a day not to see each other thru webcam. Internet, it is! Yes, the Internet, webcam, phone or laptop play a very important role in our daily living and to make our relationship succeed. 


How about you, how long have you been in a long distance relationship and what do you do to make it work?
« Last Edit: July 29, 2018, 06:38:21 PM by Brett »

July 24, 2018, 06:33:37 AM
Reply #1

jennyfermanuel


I've been into two years long distance relationship. He is the province, and I am in the City.
Now? we are happily being together for six years.
All I can say is that, in long distance relationship to work, both must love, respect, and trust each other.
It is a commitment, commitment of the two people involved in this kind of relationship. I can say it is not easy to make ot work for those people who don't know how to commit themselves to the other person.
You aren't there physicaly with your partner, but don't ever make him/her feel that you two are too far away from each other. Never ever break both of your trust.
Actually this kind of relationship is not that hard to maintain if both of you are commited to each other. If both of you love and respect each other.

July 24, 2018, 11:17:12 AM
Reply #2

Lissiel


LDR is never easy we know that only strong people like us can keep this relationship. I have been in a long distance relationship for already 1 year and in half now. I can say that I'm very happy and I can sleep very well every night even my partner and I are miles apart.

Other than trust, patience, and understanding--communication is very important. Even how busy we are we still find a way to message each other and long messages really help; also, hour to hour update with my partner. If ever he can't update for how many hours, we don't argue about it for we understand each other. We throw our doubts away. Instead of arguing, we just how much we love each other every day. By showing love, the time passed quite fast until the time we will see each other again.

July 24, 2018, 05:50:39 PM
Reply #3

sidica


A long distance relationship is not easy, but being honest no one relationship is easy these days. I have been for almost 3 years in a relationship where he lives in the States and I live in Colombia, the hardest part of been separated by distance is when we need affection. There are times where I wish I could wake up and see him close to me but we have to be patient and use all the resources we have like social nets, video calls, visits on vacations, everything that can bring us closer.
He is a man very supportive and very positive, and we have a very good communication channel; the first thing we did was talking openly and clearly about the kind of relationship that we wanted, we agreed to be exclusive and trust each other, I never tell him what to do or not, and he does the same for me. We are very respectful and we feel mutual admiration.


I think that distance gives you the opportunity to give a shape to the relationship, to keep living your life and be more objective about the kind of relationship that you want.
Having a relationship in distance doesn't require being a certain age but you need to have a mental maturity if you want to make it work you really need to care about that person because if you don’t then the relationship it's not gonna last.
Been constant is a must and definitely, it´s necessary to feel comfortable being alone and having your own friends, your own plans, and direction in life.
Tha's good because if both of you are perseverant, then when you get to be together finally, you don’t feel codependent and you can be genuinely happy.

July 24, 2018, 06:08:49 PM
Reply #4

NesMarcos


I've been into two years long distance relationship. He is the province, and I am in the City.
Now? we are happily being together for six years.
All I can say is that, in long distance relationship to work, both must love, respect, and trust each other.
It is a commitment, commitment of the two people involved in this kind of relationship. I can say it is not easy to make ot work for those people who don't know how to commit themselves to the other person.
You aren't there physicaly with your partner, but don't ever make him/her feel that you two are too far away from each other. Never ever break both of your trust.
Actually this kind of relationship is not that hard to maintain if both of you are commited to each other. If both of you love and respect each other.

I strongly agree with you. Trust is really a very big word in a long distance relationship. First rule is, "Never ever break your partner's trust!"
Without trust and respect, partners can't love and be loved.
Wishing you and your partner more years, love and happiness together! :)

July 24, 2018, 07:41:39 PM
Reply #5

ion


Not really works for me.  Much better to have no commitment if your partner wants to live in other country or far from your place.  This is more applicable, but stay friends and keep the communication as long as you can.  No relationships doesn't means no communication.  If your partner went back and still single, that's good, make a commitment again.

July 25, 2018, 05:15:08 PM
Reply #6

Keira05


This kind of relationship requires a lot of trust and faith with one another. I believe that in every relationship even both are together or not and the secret to staying in it is of course the love, time and faith. If both feels mutual and is willing to wait and be patient with time then love will prevail for both. Long distance relationship can work but not for everyone I guess because some are too bored with the long time not seeing each other and be with each other physically and it plays an important role that maybe once or twice a year both should be together and go for an adventure and share happy moments so that when they part distance they have this feeling of assurance that this relationship could really work and gets exciting when time comes that they would be together again. Communication is another important thing that should always be present to both if not everyday then it should be the soonest when they have both make time for it.

July 27, 2018, 09:44:49 AM
Reply #7

RoseKaizer


Trust and loyalty is the best key to make the relationship longer. Its the foundation of ldr, like me we are in long distance relationship I trust my partner so it really works.

July 27, 2018, 05:48:36 PM
Reply #8

masquezane01


Me and my girlfriend have been in a long-distance relationship for 3 year. And I know this is cliché, and you've already heard this, it's all about "communication". When I say 'communication', it doesn't pertain to the frequency of calls and text messages. It doesn't correlate to the amount, it's in the quality. Busy days are inevitable, we all have things to deal with individually even as a couple: school, work, family, the list will go on. Building a strong foundation of an LDR starts with communication. Not how frequent you call each other, but what things you talk about when you're talking on call. This is self-explanatory, and I learned all of this from my own experience. Being in this kind of relationship is very hard. But it pays the price and it's very special. In this distant relationship, we grow as a team with our significant other. This is what it's all about.

July 27, 2018, 05:56:38 PM
Reply #9

NesMarcos


Not really works for me.  Much better to have no commitment if your partner wants to live in other country or far from your place.  This is more applicable, but stay friends and keep the communication as long as you can.  No relationships doesn't means no communication.  If your partner went back and still single, that's good, make a commitment again.

You do have a point here and I am sure that you do have personal reasons in saying better not to be committed if your partner will live far from you. In some cases, long distance relationship does not really work at all. It is not that they don't love each other nor they can't commit themselves. Some factors are time, effort and lastly, physical presence. Everybody needs hugs from our loved ones. When you feel down, tired or even stressed, a simple hug from your loved one matters big time. Seeing your partner smile physically makes you feel at ease, comfortable and energized. Maybe that's the power of touch.

July 28, 2018, 10:25:52 AM
Reply #10

Momon16


Since I've been in long distance relationship for 2 years, i think the key to make it long last is to give time to each other. When its your day off or even break time,sent a message to your partner or have a video call because it is modern nowadays,its very high tech,there are different apps such as viber,messenger,skype etc..Make a quality time for the both of you,ask your partner if he/shes okay.Even it is an hour or minute call,message or video call it can lessen her longing for you.Having a long distance relationship is very hard,you need a lot of patience and most importantly is to have trust with each other.If you have a problem then tell it to make a solution.

July 28, 2018, 01:19:15 PM
Reply #11

NesMarcos


Me and my girlfriend have been in a long-distance relationship for 3 year. And I know this is cliché, and you've already heard this, it's all about "communication". When I say 'communication', it doesn't pertain to the frequency of calls and text messages. It doesn't correlate to the amount, it's in the quality. Busy days are inevitable, we all have things to deal with individually even as a couple: school, work, family, the list will go on. Building a strong foundation of an LDR starts with communication. Not how frequent you call each other, but what things you talk about when you're talking on call. This is self-explanatory, and I learned all of this from my own experience. Being in this kind of relationship is very hard. But it pays the price and it's very special. In this distant relationship, we grow as a team with our significant other. This is what it's all about.

Well said! Long distance relationship needs a strong foundation to last a lifetime. A foundation you build thru communication.  Partners who were together before and were each other's best friends successfully managed the distance thing without a problem. Other couples who had weaker foundations established before ultimately crumbled from the 'distance'. As for the rest of them, don’t get to build a foundation at all due to multiple obstacles distance created for them both; it was like building a house on a sink hole. Trust, respect, love, support and spending quality time together matter most. 

July 29, 2018, 10:55:17 AM
Reply #12

regineblas


Yes, Long distance relationship is not easy. But when you enter the world of in a relationship don't expect that was easy and happy. Most of us says, "Love is not happy all the time, you will not really feel the Love if you can't feel the pain, sacrifice
and trust".


In this Long distance relationship, you and your partner need a Trust that will help your relationship work because if you don't have trust with your partner your relationship will not last forever, even if you can't see each other on the video call or if you can't talk longer on the phone as long as you have trust to him/her it will work if you really love each other. Sacrifice, in LDR need also to sacrifice because as I said if you have trust you need also to sacrifice. Why? Because you are far from each other, maybe on a right time God will give you the best result as long as you have faith on Him. Just pray and help guidance to God to make your relationship work.  :-* :-* :-*

July 29, 2018, 06:33:49 PM
Reply #13

vashuan


to make a long distance relationship works, is simple but actually not easy. .It is needs wider patience.   As wide as you could do.  It is a great sacrifice to both parties.  Of course, love is the main factor.  It is important, that both parties must be willfull at first, for their status as their relationship would become a long distance or they are starting a long distance relationship.  Both parties should be aware of the possible circumstances or trials they would probably encounter. Most of all, they're both mature enough and ready to deal with a long distance relationship.

 

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