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Author Topic: ghosted?

May 29, 2019, 08:40:35 PM
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kira.hasumii


I've been single for 2 years and a month ago i met someone online. We'd talk on the phone for hours and clicked instantly, regardless i still had no intention of falling for him as hard as i did especially because he approached me, and this time i wasn't looking to date, i was coming to terms with being happy and single. I never thought we'd be anything more than just friends. For a while i started to notice that maybe we both did like each other, i didn't want to address it immediately so i let some time go by. He reached out to my best-friend and told her his feelings about me but they were still unclear. I've been a bit busy so we haven't talked as much but i still try to reach out to him but it seems like he doesn't want to talk being that he doesn't respond to anything i say. He told my best-friend "she's been busy doing other things, i don't want to rush things but ever since we started talking like, idk, i mean it's fine i guess idk" When i reached out to him to talk about it, he was okay with talking about it but when i called no answer. still now we haven't talked i messaged him Sunday and Monday and no response so i said i'll just let him be. I'm just confused on why after all of that, why would a guy decide to just stop talking to someone they might have feelings for and start ignoring them.

June 04, 2019, 02:11:04 PM
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wanderlust7


There are many reasons why guys will ghost girls and you can never be certain without being that guy.

The best thing to do is not to overthink it, be happy that you dodged a bullet (imagine being in a relationship with him then he just disappears? you've had a lucky escape), carry on with your life and dating

July 21, 2019, 01:58:00 PM
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Skyrochelle


He probably thinks that youre too busy to spend time on him and he doesnt want to put himself into a postion where if before you guys even get serious you barely have time, whats going to happen when you guys do get together? maybe he is nervous and scared he will get hurt. The only thing you can do is reach out and if he isnt reaching back out, maybe you also saved yourself. If he cant understand you being busy, that couldve been a serious problem if you get together and then youre trying to handel life problems and hes clinging to you every second. just try to talk to him and understand why he feels that way, but also let him know that you have a life and you want to fit him into it, but youre just not available evey second of every day.

July 21, 2019, 09:46:24 PM
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nephilly


Sending a "good morning" text and a "good night" text take 10 seconds total.  You said you let time go by.  What did you expect?  I know the millennial standard is to play hot and cold passive aggressive games, show lots of interest, then not show any interest, and keeping dragging on and on without any follow-through, but actions have consequences, and the lack of actions therefore have consequences as well.

July 26, 2019, 02:52:44 PM
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Livinonaprayer


I was ghosted by a guy for the first time a couple of years ago, and I must say it’s a terrible feeling, especially if you already have low self-esteem. Best advice I can give is just accept it for what it is, and that you’ll probably never know the reason and don’t need to. I know how much it sucks to pick apart every part of your personality to try to figure out what it is that drove him away, and let me tell you it will not only drive you crazy, but you’ll feel like crap about yourself. It’s not worth it, and it mostly likely is something going on with him, not you. Move on, you deserve better!!

July 26, 2019, 03:54:13 PM
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kim


Hey,
I don't know for sure why he is acting this way but there can be many reasons.
He either found someone online or offline and wants to cool down the feelings he had for you. He might be annoyed that you didn't talk to him even though you were busy. Maybe he interpreted that in the wrong way.
In my opinion the best way to really find out why he is acting this way is to just ask him.
Ask him directly in a message why he is behaving that way but make sure to let him know what you thought the situation was.
That you maybe liked him and that you thought he did too.
Best of luck!

 

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