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December 10, 2018, 06:51:21 AM
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amosgwapo


In our modern generation where we have a lot of techonologies where we can use to communicate someone from anywhere around the planet does distance really matter?

December 10, 2018, 02:49:54 PM
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menchuuy58


In our modern generation where we have a lot of techonologies where we can use to communicate someone from anywhere around the planet does distance really matter?
I believe that with a lot of technologies now there is no more barrier of distance. You can communicate with your partner anywhere you are. This is of great help for those who are having a long distance relationship. You can get closer through communication technology.

December 14, 2018, 03:50:03 PM
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booger


It does, at least to me. I'm currently moving-on from a previous long distance relationship. Our relationship came to a point that our communication went to almost zero. We became insecure, I started to get jealous, I don't know about her. Our pride kicked in because of lack of communication, we had no idea what's going on and we kept guessing on our feelings for each other. It came to a point that I had to let go of her because I thought I don't see the point of holding on anymore. I still wish we're together but I think it is too late.

December 18, 2018, 07:00:05 PM
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dzonyfox2


In my opinion, if the love is true between two, there is no distance that can separate them. And I think that nowadays technology has a lot to do with it. Thanks to video and phone calls, nowadays you can easily communicate with your partner. Regardless how far you are, you and your partner can always see or hear each other. Today's technology brings people closer.
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December 20, 2018, 07:14:18 PM
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SChesson41


We do have a lot of technologies that people can utilize to connect with each other.  In today's world, you don't really even need a cell phone to connect with each other. You can use your computer, Netbook Laptop, tablet, and even an iPod to communicate with people.
The most important key is to have an internet connection. Distance does matter because people have to decide if they are willing to take risks and or make sacrifices to overcome distance to meet with you.   If one does overcome distance and make the sacrifice to see you is there an ulterior motive?  There needs to be a benefit when someone makes sacrifices; especially when you consider distance. When someone spends the time to overcome distance that is something that they cannot get back.  Time is a precious commodity it's not like money you can't make time again once it's gone.

December 21, 2018, 12:28:25 PM
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menchuuy58


In my opinion, if the love is true between two, there is no distance that can separate them. And I think that nowadays technology has a lot to do with it. Thanks to video and phone calls, nowadays you can easily communicate with your partner. Regardless how far you are, you and your partner can always see or hear each other. Today's technology brings people closer.
[/quoteI agree with you. We have the same answer. There is no more distance in relationships because of technologies through the internet. Relationships can be made closer through video calls and phone calls.

January 12, 2019, 12:45:31 AM
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Bartlebycs


One of my friends was in a long-distance relationship with a guy in Australia (we're in the US).  It lasted a pretty long time, so no, I don't think distance matters.

January 14, 2019, 07:26:57 PM
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missg


One of my friends was in a long-distance relationship with a guy in Australia (we're in the US).  It lasted a pretty long time, so no, I don't think distance matters.

Me too, I have one friend that currently lives in the UK and is dating someone in the US.

It's perfectly do-able it just requires effort on both sides to make the LDR work!

January 21, 2019, 02:08:10 PM
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Freedom1298


I believe that distance matters, but not critical. For example, I looked at the site https://urloveliness.com for reviews of various services for dating and one of them found a beautiful girl. We live far from each other, but for several years together and even a hint of betrayal was not

January 21, 2019, 02:09:22 PM
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Freedom1298


I believe that distance matters, but not critical. For example, I looked at the site https://urloveliness.com for reviews of various services for dating and one of them found a beautiful girl. We live far from each other, but for several years together and even a hint of betrayal was not

January 31, 2019, 05:03:35 PM
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Underboss


I was just in a LDR and I live in NC while she lives in NJ and the distant thing was just not working out for her. Even with technology the way it is today... We would talk on the phone for hours EVERY night... text throughout the day but ultimately she came to the conclusion she isn't moving anytime in the near future and I will not go to NJ so why are we keeping it up...

February 06, 2019, 07:59:44 PM
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brokenheart


I was in a long distance relationship for 2 years. She was from Slovakia and I am from Norway.  We spent the half year being together and continued the relationship with long distance. It is really hard, but its worth it if thats the only option. In today media world there is many ways of communicating. In our case we used WhatsApp and Facetime the most. Every day we texted good morning and throughout the day we texted eachother. We ended also the day be sending goodnight messages. We also used facetime 2-3 times a week. Its all about routines. Also never underestimate sending a nice message during the night. Its the best feeling when waking up.

In my opinon long distance is really hard and its an important to have an "end date" on when the distance will end. In my case I was a bit too supporting and always wanted her to be the best version of herself. Therefore I engouraged her to say yes to career opportunities (even if it mean extending the long distance). I was maybe naive and it became hard to keep the love alive. She then broke up with me...

To sum up. In my case distance mattered over time. Its hard to keep the love alive when not together. But with good communication, respect and mutual goals, the love can survive pretty long. Its all about effort and hard work. 

February 07, 2019, 02:53:45 PM
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winstonjack


The fact the divorce stats on those who meet, date and fall in love the traditional way are not so hot, I'd say Long Distance Relationships (LDR) are no better off or worse than traditional dating. There is no doubt that eventually you would have to meet the LDR person in person but building that foundation before meeting is like traditional dating. I call it, "get to know each other stage".

 I know people who say that when they meet someone in person on a traditional date they are less real to whom they really are v.s. a person whom they meet over the net.  In other words, the net  doesn't have the same stress factors as pretending to be something you are not  when meeting someone for the first time in person. Consequently, the first hurdle of the "get to know each other stage" may be more true to whom they are versus the facade one may put on when they are meeting for the first time while sitting across from each other at a restaurant.

February 27, 2019, 09:45:26 AM
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Kokop42


I believe in this day and age that distance does not matter, because of all our opportunities to stay connected with each other. Although, nothing beats having a face-to-face conversation with people, especially the one you love, is better. But I do believe that with enough time and effort a long distance relationship will work.

March 05, 2019, 05:28:57 PM
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Lolita


No distance shouldn't matter as long as both parties try and keep connection open.

March 17, 2019, 11:57:45 PM
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Eva


I'm in a distance marriage and I'm gonna say. I too said distance didn't matter when I first started out and my gosh now was I wrong. The time difference, busy schedule. I'm constantly feeling lonely, when u need sex and he's or she isn't there then your in real trouble.

April 11, 2019, 02:38:13 PM
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whitesnow


I don't think in our days distance does matters. The most important thing is love between people and the desire to create relationships. I have a friend who were in a long-distance relationship during the last year with a guy from UK. Thanks to technology, they communicated every day on Watsapp. And now, a year later, my friend moved to him to London.

April 12, 2019, 12:35:00 AM
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strawberryfields4ever


It is a huge stressor on a relationship but with good communication and understanding it is possible to be happy!

April 12, 2019, 10:01:50 PM
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LDRcasting


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May 14, 2019, 03:16:45 PM
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Mim


As long as both parties think about a future together - no, it doesn't!

June 28, 2019, 04:12:25 PM
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DJ92


I don’t think distance matters BUT it also depends on the person and what they want out of a relationship.

Personally I think the distance makes it better because it brings a closer bond but some people are very reluctant to enter into a LDR

June 29, 2019, 06:34:24 PM
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iamanam


I have been in long distance relationship few times. For me it matters when you don't have the right partner and right mentality towards it. Like, if you have trust issues then long distance could really affect you.

July 09, 2019, 10:07:02 AM
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Eneko


Trust and a future in common is the key for maintaining long-distance relationships! Once one of the two is lost things start going downhill...

July 27, 2019, 01:07:21 PM
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Anxiety


Let's say technology makes it a whole lot easier these days to feel ''connected''
But the barrier of not being physical near your SO is always something that feels like it's missing.
Especially if you have the lucks to meet this person and spend hours, days together and after return to mundane life it feels like a piece of yourself is missing.
And the satisfaction you felt before from having calls, texts, video calls feels way less.

So, before you get yourself into a LDR, be sure you are ready to face all the aspects of it.

August 06, 2019, 01:16:32 AM
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Roosje


Depends beloved, whether you love physical touch and spending quality time together. Yes I believe that you can have a long distance relationship when you share the same Values and vision. Communication is key and experiencing life together once a while too.
My point of view.
Regards

August 07, 2019, 10:06:32 AM
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AshleyTuong


For me with wifi and internet I think it really good for Long distance relationship. But the honest and trust is the most important to keep it last. Here is some tips for LDR.
Make sure we share the little moments of joy
Important to take time of our priority for your lover
Talk through struggle and hard feelings, text easy to misinterpret, make sure you talk through them. Long distance Relationship is hard but it can also be incredible. When you love trust and respect someone from a distance, you will be unstoppable when you are together

When there is life there is hope

August 17, 2019, 08:33:18 PM
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Max


It doesn't matter if there is a true love, but it still difficult

August 23, 2019, 08:32:46 AM
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Dan40


long distance has never worked for me and once I discovered I could not rely on technology and had a relationship with someone local it confirmed to myself anyway that you cannot beat being close to the person you love or are attracted to.
I like my phone and email like most other people but I doubt full body language in the presence of that specual person can somehow be maintained similar using cameras and gadgets, my experience has taught me to rely on eachothers presence.
A quick call or a text and a couple of kisses is fine but I just prefer the person close to me.

September 25, 2019, 05:09:09 AM
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davidrx


It certainly does. This is coming from someone who just lost a 5 year relationship due to distance, mostly. Do everything you can to see and spend time with each other. Come up with solid plans before it's too late.

October 04, 2019, 05:35:40 AM
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Paul857857


In our modern generation where we have a lot of techonologies where we can use to communicate someone from anywhere around the planet does distance really matter?
I believe that with a lot of technologies now there is no more barrier of distance. You can communicate with your partner anywhere you are. This is of great help for those who are having a long distance relationship. You can get closer through communication technology.

Agreed. Just think you need a partner who is very committed. It can work. You just need to give it 110%

October 06, 2019, 06:07:17 PM
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Johnn


Not always, sometimes distance can strengthen a relationship. :)

October 09, 2019, 01:59:23 AM
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Deathtone199


It does matter of  course, but if both are truly in love and want the same out of life, then it shouldnt be a deal breaker  :)

October 10, 2019, 10:37:04 AM
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robertbenja


According to my opinion distance doesn't matter in a long distance relationship. Due to technological era any one can connect with loved one in a second through phone, video calling or laptop. Now days 50% people are in a long distance relationship. If your partner is loyal then distance doesn't matter in a relationship.

October 14, 2019, 06:12:24 AM
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November 03, 2019, 04:06:57 AM
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Brokenhearted716


It does because sometimes your S/O cant be there when you need him the most and you feel lonely a lot...im speaking from experience.

November 14, 2019, 03:11:26 AM
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LongDistanceSolution


Distance matter Yes. We got feelings. And when we really love to be with somebody we can be really creative in order to find solutions to make ir work! Distance really sucks. But what are we doing to make it happen? To make the flame burning?

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November 23, 2019, 09:54:56 AM
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Crazyhair


If both parties put in the same effort. Love is love and distance shouldn’t matter. So many ways to be connected these days. When you do connect from time to time the passion is still is alive.

December 05, 2019, 09:13:19 AM
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MrHappyGuy


I'm in a long-distance relationship and have been for around 5 months but my girlfriend and I have been acting like we've been together for much longer than that. Our relationship is really good and I feel like the happiest person on earth with her, now to the question: does distance matter? To me it depends, I have no problem with the distance as it is right now because we often Skype and play games together or just chat. On the other hand I feel like distance definitely matter after some time, I love my girlfriend and my feelings are seemingly growing over time. My want to be with her and to cuddle, kiss etc. is growing and something I really want at some point. I wouldn't be able to deal with distance my whole life, at some point I have to be close to her physically. That being said I'm willing to wait however long it takes because of how much I love her (for anyone who's interested we're planning to meet next summer for the first time).

December 06, 2019, 10:21:50 PM
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Nathalie


It doesn't have to matter I think. I have had a long distance relationship before. Being able to call eachother every day makes a big difference.

January 03, 2020, 09:36:56 PM
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emmaemmi


I have to agree to what most people said in this thread.

It definitively matters, you cannot deny that. But if there is an end in sight, it should not terminate the relationship. It is a lot harder than living close to one another, but it is manageable IF (!) it won't be forever, at least that's the case with me. Because although I am not a really physical dependent and needy person, it is so hard when you're missing your SO and can't hug them or anything. Or if they're having a rough time and you can't comfort them, but instead you can only skype with them and tell them that everything's going to be okay while they're probably crying on the other side of the screen and that hurts. But if you know that it's only going to be for months or a few years (I'd say 3 tops), then sure, why not. Try it. There are upsides to it, too  :)

Hope, I could be of help!

January 07, 2020, 04:53:50 AM
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desree


It has its good and bad.  I am in a long distance relationship.  There are times when i really miss him but on the other hand there are moments when I am glad to be by myself.  Sometimes just having that space is really nice and allows you to breath.  This may sound crazy but even though we are apart it still feels so good just to know he is there.  Before the end of 2020 we will officially be together.  I am harboring a lot of sorted feelings internally, but time tells all.  He is a great man.  So, lets see what happens when we are together under the same roof.   
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February 02, 2020, 12:49:24 PM
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It does yes. There is no such thing as a person who is going to be unconditionally loyal apart from maybe a family member. Men require physical intimacy and emotional utility from women. Women require these things also and usually also require a degree of material utility too. You can offer a long distance girlfriend material utility by helping them with their bills and sending them money from time to time. Maybe sending her a present or two. You can offer some degree of emotional utility by texts and video chats but it's a poor substitute. It's not going to compete with an actual man paying for her dinner, taking her nice places and cuddling up to her at night watching Netflix. A long distance girlfriend is likely going to be after these things and If she meets a handsome man who can offer it the long distance partner is pretty much going to be dropped like a bad joke. When it comes to male infidelity the main problem is sex. Men can be pretty good at maintaining strong emotions with women they haven't seen in a while. However men have considerably higher sex drives so they're more likely to cheat just for the sake of getting sex. I wouldn't say a LDR is impossible but unless there is some kind of strong religious morality underlying the relationship or long history with the partner they're nearly always set to fail.

 

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