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Author Topic: Boundaries

March 07, 2019, 07:15:55 PM
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Stratoblaster


Why would my gf tell another man that our relationship is basically over she told him we were friends and we're actually more than friends and she's heartbroken now. when I saw what she wrote to him. On fb messenger i confronted her and she said that's not what she meant she said she thought we were finished because i hadnt contacted her in 3 days. she was sneaking behind my back telling this guy these things.why would my girlfriend tell another man that our relationship is over and then tell him not to tell me about it because she says we're not through and that's not what she meant when she told that to him but the fact that she lied about the conversation and never planned on telling me about their conversations.i found out from him about it..what is she doing?
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May 21, 2019, 04:57:42 AM
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bella111


Three days not to contact her isn't ok. Personally, I'd be bummed at that. Long distance is hard enough. If you like her, id suggest making more effort into talking to her. As a girl, also in LDR I would be happy if we didn't talk for 3 days. She is starting to look elsewhere by the sounds of it. Communicate with her more. Also, sadly, I don't have the answer because I am not in her head, or know her. I think however, the lack of contact is pushing her to look for attention elsewhere.

May 21, 2019, 05:27:33 AM
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elly17


First, it's important to have time for yourself. Did you tell her you needed space? Why did you go three days without speaking to her? I think there is definitely a lack of communication here. If you told her you needed some time alone, her actions aren't justified no matter how you look at the situation. However, if you didn't and she attempted to contact you then this is on you.

Second, if she's telling other men the relationship is over, it seems like she might not have the same feelings. Personally, I'd never see myself even talking to other men if I was in love with someone.