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September 26, 2018, 05:51:24 AM
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ldrelationship25


My boyfriend is planning to move to Colombia next month for work. We both love each other dearly and have agreed to have a long-distance relationship, but I’m a bit skeptical on how we can make this work out. I read some love tour testimonials from couples that have LDRs and it seems communication is the key to making it work out. Any other tips or advice you guys can give me to help maintain our relationship? I appreciate it!


September 28, 2018, 02:54:14 PM
Reply #1

goodevening


My boyfriend is planning to move to Colombia next month for work. We both love each other dearly and have agreed to have a long-distance relationship, but I’m a bit skeptical on how we can make this work out. I read some love tour testimonials from couples that have LDRs and it seems communication is the key to making it work out. Any other tips or advice you guys can give me to help maintain our relationship? I appreciate it!

Hi @ldrelationship25

Personally I haven't been in a long distance relationship myself but I'm hoping someone else will be able to provide you with some top notch advice.

A friend of mine is in a LDR and their relationship is solid, it can definitely work as long as you both put the effort in.

I have a couple of questions:

- How long is he moving away for? A month, two, a year?
- Is he very career driven? Do you think that he would choose his career over your relationship?
- How long have you been together for?

October 15, 2018, 09:00:37 PM
Reply #2

MikesLDR


Long distance relationship is certainly possible, i have been in 1 for 7 years myself. Since the decision is already made, i suggest you prepare to implement some LDR habits.

To make the best out of the situation, you could commit to video chat more often. Me and my girlfriend we FaceTime whenever possible, even when we are sleeping. Just having you beloved with you all the time, even if it's not physically, could help reduce the longing for each other.

For the video chat app, me and my gf feel that FaceTime is the best we have used. We have tried Viber, Skype, Whatsapp video, FB video, but the quality of FaceTime is superior.

What else you could is perhaps start planning a trip to see him. Maybe start saving up money or booking a early ticket to get a cheaper price.

For the long run, perhaps you 2 should start thinking about what you should do. Now it depends on if the work is temporary or not etc and what you should do to be together in the future.

Wish you all the best :).
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October 26, 2018, 04:51:35 PM
Reply #3

Panicplan


Hi I'm currently in a ldr. We met online I'm in Canada and he's in the USA. We have known each other for almost two years and started dating after a few months of being friends. We just celebrated our one year anniversary. You need to have communication!!! That's why my boyfriend and I always used to fight. We would bring something up and the other would get pissed off about it and we would just shut down and stop talking to each other for a day. I've been to see him 3 times in this past year and he hasn't come to see me once. But we had a trip planned for him to come in January for his birthday and let me tell you the distance is incredibley hard but when I'm with him im the happiest girl ever. I few times I was going to give up on him but then i think of the reason that I got together with him in the first place. He's pretty broken and I tried fixing him but you need it to just happen on it's own. You can't force hum or her to do anything. Ldr are super stressful but in the end if you keep fighting it will turn out great.

October 29, 2018, 12:18:32 PM
Reply #4

goodevening


Long distance relationship is certainly possible, i have been in 1 for 7 years myself. Since the decision is already made, i suggest you prepare to implement some LDR habits.

To make the best out of the situation, you could commit to video chat more often. Me and my girlfriend we FaceTime whenever possible, even when we are sleeping. Just having you beloved with you all the time, even if it's not physically, could help reduce the longing for each other.

For the video chat app, me and my gf feel that FaceTime is the best we have used. We have tried Viber, Skype, Whatsapp video, FB video, but the quality of FaceTime is superior.

What else you could is perhaps start planning a trip to see him. Maybe start saving up money or booking a early ticket to get a cheaper price.

For the long run, perhaps you 2 should start thinking about what you should do. Now it depends on if the work is temporary or not etc and what you should do to be together in the future.

Wish you all the best :).

@MikesLDR , @Panicplan - some good information from the both of you  8)

December 10, 2018, 03:49:28 AM
Reply #5

menchuuy58


My boyfriend is planning to move to Colombia next month for work. We both love each other dearly and have agreed to have a long-distance relationship, but I’m a bit skeptical on how we can make this work out. I read some love tour testimonials from couples that have LDRs and it seems communication is the key to making it work out. Any other tips or advice you guys can give me to help maintain our relationship? I appreciate it!
I believe that trust and communication are the keys to your relationship to be successful. They worked for me and my husband. He has been away for six years. Yet we are closer than ever.

December 12, 2018, 05:32:17 AM
Reply #6

Caguioa747


Make sure you guys have similar expectations about how often you will talk (call each other everyday? Every other day?). If one of you is expecting more than the other, it will be frustrating for both. With that said, also be flexible with it and understand when you can't talk/plans change. With LDR's you need a goal for when that period will be over. Clear times frames and what not. Also regular, possibly daily, communication and weekly video dates when possible. It ain't easy, but it is doable. Also, complete honesty when you're struggling and with what you're doing. Which should be in your relationship anyways. Be completely transparent.

December 12, 2018, 09:18:33 PM
Reply #7

angeliacq


The first and most vital thing to do is to have a real talk with your partner about this decision of going LDR. You have to be sure that if you both agree with it and you'll take full responsibility into making it work by all means possible. The reason for this is because not all LDR works. It's amazing how people can keep an LDR going for years, but some also ended their relationships while they're in this situation and it's pretty hard and painful to break it off while you're not together. So be honest to each other, open up about your fears, your doubts and everything that bothers you before you allow your partner to leave.

Commitment when it comes to your daily communications definitely do the job. I was in a long distance relationship for 4 years and we stayed that long because we make sure to communicate as often as possible. Our timezone is only 2 hours difference, and despite the conflict on schedule, we battled sleepless days and nights just to keep each other on the phone. Videochat is the best way to do it, because you can't physically touch.

You'd eventually end up visiting him because you'll miss him so much, and try to do that if your circumstances will allow it. That way you can better straight things up and come up with new ways to improve your relationship.
 

 

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