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January 10, 2020, 02:50:32 PM
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mkavo92


Hope you all have a good day

I've been dating my fiance for few years in long distance relationship. Honestly, I don't know where to start with this problem, but I'll try to be as specific as I can. So we have arranged the wedding which is going to happen next month, we deposited the restaurant, invited every members that we can think of,... But I don't know if I'm thinking too much, but the way that I feel right now wasn't like it used to be. She's being more silence, even I know that she's not the type that talk a lot, but she used to care for me a lot, being active in every situations, but right now it's just some gaps between us. I really really want to take this gap out, trying to work things out with her for many times, but still couldn't connect. Should I just ignore it till the wedding to see if anything changes? Or should I do something to change? Plus, whenever we discuss something seriously, if we can't come to a solution that works out for her, then she can be silence for a good period of time, which makes me more nervous. Seriously guy, I don't know what to do, I've been building this relationship for years, I'm so sad that my wedding isn't that meaningful for me any more :(. Some advises would be much appreciated. Looking forward to hearing from you guys soon

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January 10, 2020, 03:19:37 PM
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Deesiree


Hey there,

I'm sorry to hear how you feel.

Though I don't think I can offer a proper answer or solution to your problem, I can try suggesting a few angles from which you can evaluate this situation to perhaps get to the bottom of this.

Could it be the pressure of the imminent wedding that's making your SO behave this way? You say she's not usually a talkative person, is she an introvert? If yes, the wedding preparations, having to meet people, making decisions, etc. could be exhausting her and she might need some space and alone time to recharge and feel herself again. In fact, wedding-related anxiety could hit anyone, regardless of whether they are introvert or not so that's something you need to figure out.

Has she ever withdrawn herself in this way before? If yes, then how did things normalize? If not, again it could be the wedding.

Most importantly, have you told her how you feel about her being silent and withdrawn and how it's affecting you? If not, I think you need to open up about your feelings to her and see what she says.

I hope this helps and wish things get sorted soon. All the best! 

January 13, 2020, 08:07:13 AM
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Najwa


I agree with mkavo91. You should have a talk, take some time just you and her in a quite neutral place, a nice quiet cafe or something, and talk calmly with her, let her know how you feel and about your worries. Her reply and reaction should guide you on what to do. Communication is important. You must be able to vent to and talk together. ask her how she is doing, feeling, is she stressed, is something bothering her, etc.

March 31, 2020, 01:24:17 PM
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Deborahjude


Hey there,

I'm sorry to hear how you feel.

Though I don't think I can offer a proper answer or solution to your problem, I can try suggesting a few angles from which you can evaluate this situation to perhaps get to the bottom of this.

Could it be the pressure of the imminent wedding that's making your SO behave this way? You say she's not usually a talkative person, is she an introvert? If yes, the wedding preparations, having to meet people, making decisions, etc. could be exhausting her and she might need some space and alone time to recharge and feel herself again. In fact, wedding-related anxiety could hit anyone, regardless of whether they are introvert or not so that's something you need to figure out.

Has she ever withdrawn herself in this way before? If yes, then how did things normalize? If not, again it could be the wedding.

Most importantly, have you told her how you feel about her being silent and withdrawn and how it's affecting you? If not, I think you need to open up about your feelings to her and see what she says.

I hope this helps and wish things get sorted soon. All the best!

I totally agree with you, i was in a long distance relationship for 5 years and it nearly ruined me, w3bst3r saved me. I dated this guy for 5 years, he was in New York, i was at Seattle we saw once in few weeks. I noticed his phone was always on the flight mode anytime he was around and even if it rang e wouldn't pick and start getting uncomfortable. I spoke to my coworker about what i was facing emotionally and how unsure i was, she recommended w3bst3r, a private investigation company, to help me do a thorough investigation on him to establish for fact whether he was cheating on me or not..
Well, results came out that he was cheating on me with a girl he called his cousin and all my suspicions became reality, i was almost not able to contain the pain, but id rather not be lied to and cheated on... I deserve better, i knew at that moment and broke p with him, im fine now and i know better now

April 02, 2020, 04:47:30 PM
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randymartin


Hey there,

I'm sorry to hear how you feel.

Though I don't think I can offer a proper answer or solution to your problem, I can try suggesting a few angles from which you can evaluate this situation to perhaps get to the bottom of this.

Could it be the pressure of the imminent wedding that's making your SO behave this way? You say she's not usually a talkative person, is she an introvert? If yes, the wedding preparations, having to meet people, making decisions, etc. could be exhausting her and she might need some space and alone time to recharge and feel herself again. In fact, wedding-related anxiety could hit anyone, regardless of whether they are introvert or not so that's something you need to figure out.

Has she ever withdrawn herself in this way before? If yes, then how did things normalize? If not, again it could be the wedding.

Most importantly, have you told her how you feel about her being silent and withdrawn and how it's affecting you? If not, I think you need to open up about your feelings to her and see what she says.

I hope this helps and wish things get sorted soon. All the best!

I totally agree with you, i was in a long distance relationship for 5 years and it nearly ruined me, w3bst3r saved me. I dated this guy for 5 years, he was in New York, i was at Seattle we saw once in few weeks. I noticed his phone was always on the flight mode anytime he was around and even if it rang e wouldn't pick and start getting uncomfortable. I spoke to my coworker about what i was facing emotionally and how unsure i was, she recommended w3bst3r, a private investigation company, to help me do a thorough investigation on him to establish for fact whether he was cheating on me or not..
Well, results came out that he was cheating on me with a girl he called his cousin and all my suspicions became reality, i was almost not able to contain the pain, but id rather not be lied to and cheated on... I deserve better, i knew at that moment and broke p with him, im fine now and i know better now

Can this private investigative service you mentioned help me find my son? he has been missing for 2 years niw and all efforts ti find him dead or alive has been futile. I need help

April 02, 2020, 04:56:40 PM
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issabella


If i saw this post earlier, i would have admonished you to hire some private investigative service ( i recommend w3bst3r), they could help you clarify what your partner might be hiding and you'll see the entire truth  before taking the bold step of proceeding to marry... If you are yet to get married, i'd say you do few background check on her to see if she's been cheating or she doesnt really wanna get married to you, but if you're both married then i'd say goodluck. If you still need them you can check w3bst3r dot com

April 02, 2020, 05:05:12 PM
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dianalamb


If i saw this post earlier, i would have admonished you to hire some private investigative service ( i recommend w3bst3r), they could help you clarify what your partner might be hiding and you'll see the entire truth  before taking the bold step of proceeding to marry... If you are yet to get married, i'd say you do few background check on her to see if she's been cheating or she doesnt really wanna get married to you, but if you're both married then i'd say goodluck. If you still need them you can check w3bst3r dot com

Are you encouraging people to spy on their potential spouses before getting married? Wouldn't that me sometimes illegal? also, how reliable is this service you made mention?

April 02, 2020, 05:14:37 PM
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urielmand


Sorry you feel that way, it could be normal atimes to feel such way towards your wedding day. It could just be anxiety on her part or something else, but whatever it is try to stay strong and love yourself most. Happiness is what we choose on a daily basis, we never allow our happiness to be in the hands of our spouses because they are humans too

April 03, 2020, 01:22:59 AM
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alice1


Very nice blog! I understand your concern. I would suggest that talk with her and share your feelings. For more info, read our blog at http://ejournalz.com/category/relationship/

 

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