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Author Topic: 8 months together and everything ended this way

September 19, 2020, 01:41:36 PM
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Sweetcheryl


I've been with this guy for 8 months in a LDR. We have seen each other and are very fond of each other. He came to see me in my country, we spent some fabulous days together. Even online he was a really nice person to talk to or play games. However, recently he started pulling away in an attempt to protect himself, saying that the situation with Covid is too uncertain to hold the relationship at the same intensity, because we don't know when we will see each other. He said I want me to be there with him so badly, so his way of protecting himself is by pulling away. It started to hurt me a lot seeing how he was drifting away, leaving messages on read, not being so involved with me, saying that it wasn't important if we didn't talk everyday, and after some days of silence, I told him I decided to cut off communication. That this was hurting me more than making the situation more bearable. That I needed to not receive any messages from him to move on. He said he was sorry that in protecting himself he also hurt me, and wanted to be sure that if we missed each other too much we could contact each other and that we were not going to forget the months we've been together. He said I was very important to him.
I want to be with him, but his actions were too wrong for me. I felt ignored and dismissed. I was willing to fight for what we had, even if the coronavirus stayed with us 3 years more, but I felt so hurt that he could just start avoiding me only because now we can't see each other.
We were having this conversation through text, and finally he just left my final response unanswered, where I asked some days to think about things and detach emotionally a little. After it he only checks my Instagram stories time to time. Partly I feel relieved, because I know that it would have hurt more if I continued seeing his indifference. But at the same time, I think maybe I just overreacted and threw off everything, every good moments we had.
Do you think I did the best decision? I want to be happy, and feel valued and loved.
« Last Edit: September 19, 2020, 01:43:16 PM by Sweetcheryl »

September 24, 2020, 04:17:23 PM
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Daydreaming


Hugs girl...I hv been there..this ldr thing needs tender loving care. I dated my hubby ldr but it was so hard yes. Cos we cannot be like normal couples do like hang out and or just catch a movie night or cuddle together. I suppose guys need to touch and feel that its concrete so they can advance more I to the relationship. So if u can make this idea materalize then you can think of a future together else it's just empty sorry to say..

I am also recently in a fix myself over a ldr fling...the guy wanted to meet up but I kept giving excuses and he kinda feel lukewarm now...sigh

 

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