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Author Topic: INFERTILITY IN NIGERIA: A UNIQUE PERSPECTIVE

December 17, 2018, 07:18:47 PM
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Growing up, my sister always said she would enjoy the first year of her marriage before thinking of conceiving. My sister was too young to realize that there is no such thing as waiting in Nigeria. In Nigeria, as soon as you have said your vows, everyone is counting down the months to the birth of your baby. After three months with no sign of conception, you become your family's prayer point. After six months, you are deemed infertile and you begin to hear snide comments about how barren you are (always the woman of course, it's Africa).

My sister had forgotten her comments about waiting for a year but I hadn't and I couldn't remind her because I could see how unhappy she was. One woman even told her to her face that all she was good for was eating and spending her husband's money. Today, my sister is the mother of three beautiful children but my mind keeps going back to that year and the mindset of people. Hers was just a year, I wonder what women here in Nigeria who have stayed longer without conceiving go through every day.

 
Are there similar expectations in your country? Do you know anyone who has gone through a similar experience?

January 08, 2019, 05:52:02 PM
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Growing up, my sister always said she would enjoy the first year of her marriage before thinking of conceiving. My sister was too young to realize that there is no such thing as waiting in Nigeria. In Nigeria, as soon as you have said your vows, everyone is counting down the months to the birth of your baby. After three months with no sign of conception, you become your family's prayer point. After six months, you are deemed infertile and you begin to hear snide comments about how barren you are (always the woman of course, it's Africa).

My sister had forgotten her comments about waiting for a year but I hadn't and I couldn't remind her because I could see how unhappy she was. One woman even told her to her face that all she was good for was eating and spending her husband's money. Today, my sister is the mother of three beautiful children but my mind keeps going back to that year and the mindset of people. Hers was just a year, I wonder what women here in Nigeria who have stayed longer without conceiving go through every day.

 
Are there similar expectations in your country? Do you know anyone who has gone through a similar experience?

It most certainly is interesting to hear about the cultural differences between societies, though in this case, it's very, weird.

If a friend or mine or someone I knew was trying to conceive, I would never dare take the Micky out of them for not being able to get pregnant. it sounds like a very nasty society.

If anyone has been trying to concieve for 6 months I recommend they seek medical advice, as there are other ways to get pregnant. (I'm not sure on how it works in Nigeria and what's readily available).
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