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Author Topic: So many mixed messages

December 08, 2018, 02:51:28 AM
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amnred


So, I have a boyfriend.  I have been with him for 6 years now.  But I have to be honest, while we have stuck with each each other though thick and thin, I secretly have never really liked him.  As a person or sexually.  There’s a lot more to that story, but the one I’m trying to figure out right now is my straight friend. 

Let me just get this awkward bit of info out of the way.  He’s 19 and I’m 31 (generally people think I’m in my early 20’s though)  I know, sick I’m too old for him.  I am indulging this info though because maybe I just don’t know how young guys are these days. 

But it all started at school.  I spent a long period of my life in the military so I got started in school late.  We ended up as lab partners, and even though I found him annoying at first, we really hit it off.  We spent all sorts of time together between classes, a couple times he attended my classes that he wasn’t in just to spend time with me, and he would touch me like no straight guy has ever done.  He even like just started touching and very carefully playing with my elbow one day, while I just pretended not to notice.  (But I did like it, ALOT)

After school, we would just hang out in each other’s cars just talking for an hour plus.  It took a while for me to tell him I was gay and in a relationship, it was awkward for like a week after that.  He did say though that me and my boyfriend should go on a double date with him. 

While he’s pulled back since then about some things, at the same time he’s doubled down on others.  We text eachother at times where I would never with any other straight friend.  Till like 2am one night.  He always wants to bring me lunch when I’m in class, I always decline, but he usually saves a good part of his lunch for me when I get out of class. 

He sits a little farther away from me now than before I came out, and there is less touching (I still make myself available to be touched though).

Things are just weird I’m so confused.  I’ll notice out of the corner of my eye he’s stairing at me, but when I look or try to get his attention it’s like I don’t exist.  Or when girls around he’s just a flirting machine, and once again I don’t exist.  Just standing there by my lonesome waiting for my turn again lol.

 Oh, I forgot all the times he’s walked me to my car, even though it’s super out of the way for him.  That’s just not normal behavior for a straight guy.

 Many of these things aren’t normal, but at the same time, he seems to have zero interest in anything more.  I’m just super confused and would appreciate anyone’s thoughts on what might be going on in his head. 
« Last Edit: December 08, 2018, 02:56:33 AM by amnred »

December 17, 2018, 07:52:21 PM
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Tehilah27


Why did you stop? This has all the makings of a good romance novel that l would totally read lol. Sorry, i don't really know what to tell you because I'm as confused as you are! Hmmmn, there are ways to hint at things without actually coming out to say them. You could make up a story about a guy you knew in the military who was straight but who experimented with gay guys or something like that and casually slip it into a conversation. His reaction would tell you if there is any chance he could possibly be interested in trying anything with you. If he is curious to know more then he just might be but if he changes the subject or pretends not to have heard then... I must warn you though that falling for a straight guy is hazardous to your health as you might get your heart broken so proceed with care.

Oh, l totally forgot about your boyfriend. Deal with that situation before trying anything with straight guy

April 26, 2019, 09:51:56 AM
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Inforle


Dix. How many times I've told myself do not fall in love with a straight lady. All the time it brought disaster. Now I'm planning to try one night stand with a ladyboy. Perhaps it will be good experiences
« Last Edit: April 26, 2019, 09:54:28 AM by Inforle »

 

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