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Author Topic: Would you date someone with a criminal past?

July 11, 2019, 08:58:55 PM
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Sunrisetosee


I've was held in a juvenile detention center from ages 10-16 (I'm now 19 years old).

I'm not in a rush for a relationship yet but would like to start a relationship someday. I did terrible things when I was a kid.

August 18, 2019, 01:52:13 AM
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Would I date someone with a criminal past? I suppose it depends on what they did. I generally think everyone deserves a second chance, so maybe. Have you improved as a person? Is there any chance of you doing the things that got you in trouble? If you still have issues, you should probably sort those out first before worrying about relationships. The best path forward for you would to be the best version of yourself you can possibly be. Be kind, be sweet, be honest, help out the elderly, take care of your health, exercise, work on your career and hobbies, but own up to your past mistakes. If you do these things, someone will surely give you a chance.

August 29, 2019, 07:12:17 PM
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Lnm84


I'd say dont judge anything based on someones  past...we all have one and many have a past they want erased and get judged unfairly based on what was. Get to know them for yourself before you make any judgments. 

December 09, 2019, 08:58:06 AM
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Sunrisetosee


Sorry for the late reply. I hope someone is still reading it.
I would like to add that after spending some months in the detention center, I got institutionalized.

What I did at the time involved these things:
- Serious bodily harm on two smaller children. My friend and I took turns beating them and doing other things.
- Arson...my friend and I set a car on fire for not reason, just to see it getting burned and destroyed
- 2 counts of animal cruelty charges; I poisoned to death my former neighbor's 2 dogs. Prior to that my friend and I drowned a male cat; I held him down while she submerged him under water

I have full remorse for those actions back then and plan to continue on becoming the better person I was suppose to be.
« Last Edit: December 09, 2019, 08:59:37 AM by Sunrisetosee »

December 10, 2019, 06:55:55 AM
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Captain Black


This is my view.

Whilst I think your crimes were particularly cruel, you have been punished and repaid society .

You also have shown remorse for your actions and want to become a better person .

Therefore the slate is clean .

December 31, 2019, 03:58:01 AM
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Amethystwoman


Personally I think for me it would likely have a lot to do with how I got to know you and understand you. For example , if I heard about some type of ‘terrible things ‘ as you say without knowing the person that may influence me , albeit subconsciously in a way that might make me a little nervous about getting closer to the person . However if I got to know the person first and then I found out about these crimes and the circumstances I’m much more likely to consider things in a more rounded way .
That being said , it sounds like you were extremely young when these things occurred and honestly , we all deserves to have a chance to grow into fully developed adults and get a clean slate . I think if you have learned and grown most people will see that .

January 08, 2020, 03:17:05 AM
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Trooper149


Tip of the hat for your honesty dude, despite the level of cruelty you exhibited, if you are here on this forum and you have, as said, repaid society, then the slate is clean.

I'd say though that if dating someone, wait until you can trust them before you tell them the details. Not exactly first date material IMO ;)

Get some other things under your belt that "redeem" you as well. Get in good shape, get a solid trade/job/skill, dress yourself nicely and work on all the good things life has to offer.

Peace

March 30, 2020, 08:13:43 PM
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Honestly speaking I have never been to jail nor do I associate myself with people that have been, however the last guy I was seeing (he was 28 and was in jail when he was younger), he opened up to me about that after a few weeks of dating.

Maybe I sound insensitive or shallow but to be honest it was really hot how he was a bad boy and changed from his past (he went to jail for drug dealing), and the fact that he has that fire inside of him and he was able to control and harness into his career in his later life, it makes me admire him all the more.

I am dating a super by the book nice guy now and I sometimes I wish he had gone to jail cause it was such turn on hahah  :P :P

Also guys who have been to jail can be very grateful of life and spiritual I have found :) you'll be just fine, just be a kind loving person and the combination is maddening for women.

 

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