Hi,

I'm a gay guy who's been seeing another guy for about a month, nothing official yet. We met online. I'm generally quite shy and don't really like conflict. There are times where I haven't been completely honest about my thoughts or feelings with my date, partly because I'm shy, but partly because it's early days and I worry about saying the wrong thing. He has a lot of anxiety which he's been telling me about. This isn't an issue, but he texted me to say that I can tell him if it's getting too much, he wouldn't be offended. It still seems too early to be honest about everything. But I worry he would be offended if I was too honest. I do want to lend a listening ear, but I don't want to be a counsellor. I'm quite easy going as well, but I'm worried he seems to think I'm a pushover.

I'm also quite inexperienced with dating. We've met a few times for dinner and he's stayed at mine a few times at weekends. I know there aren't any rules, but I don't know when to talk more openly about what we want from the relationship and whether we should commit to each other etc. Also, I'm so used to being single, I don't really miss him during the week (we usually meet at weekends). I guess we should just take it slowly, but I'm concerned that I might not truly fall for him. I do like him, and want to see where it goes. Also I was away for a week. He asked me if I missed him, and I honestly didn't really miss him. We'd only met a few times, nothing personal. I was just enjoying being back home with my family. Obviously I didn't want to upset him so I said I did miss him. I'm concerned I just might not be cut out for a relationship.

Any advice/thoughts very welcome, thanks.