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April 09, 2019, 12:28:41 AM
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dawills2002


Hello, I have been sleeping with a male coworker of mines since April 2018. We are not in a relationship but we have been having casual sex and he comes over to my place sometimes
We have went for drinks after work a few times. He is about to be 32 and I just turned 35 so we don't have a big age gap. However, recently he has been spending every break and lunch with this girl who just turned 20 a few months ago. He said they go to smoke on lunch and have the same break schedule. I was in my car eating lunch today and I see them coming back in his car. He dropped her off at her car and circled around the building. I asked him flat out weeks ago was he screwing that young ass girl and he said no. He said they go to the park to smoke (not cigarettes) and come back. I know he is not my boyfriend but I told him I do not want to have sex with a man who is trying to screw my female coworkers. I also feel bad because he literally spends lunch with her and breaks all day long. I feel stupid and left out. It hurts my feelings because he seems so close to this 20 year old but after a year him and I have never been that close. I thought we were friends but I guess I was wrong. He said he is not having sex with her but I am torn. He never asked me to go to lunch or break ever. Should I not feel this way because we're not in a relationship or do I have a right to feel bad? Please give me advice. Thank you!

April 11, 2019, 03:33:42 AM
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OhMy29


Heyyy!
Don’t feel bad for feeling this way. It seems like you caught feelings for him but forgot that you were friends with benefits. Friends with benefits means you too can be intimate with one another and other people. If he said he has not been intimate with that young lady but you feel like he has, then maybe friends with benefits my not be something for you. Maybe you are more of a relationship type of person. I would honestly tell him how you feel. I hope this helps you.

April 11, 2019, 10:03:30 AM
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VictoriaMcKenzie


Heyyy!
Don’t feel bad for feeling this way. It seems like you caught feelings for him but forgot that you were friends with benefits. Friends with benefits means you too can be intimate with one another and other people mobile slots. If he said he has not been intimate with that young lady but you feel like he has, then maybe friends with benefits my not be something for you. Maybe you are more of a relationship type of person. I would honestly tell him how you feel. I hope this helps you.


Valuable thoughts :) Friendship plays an important role in our lives

April 14, 2019, 11:01:13 PM
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ashe0354


i would agree that you may have caught feelings and that is totally okay! i had slept with a coworker for a year and found out he was sleeping with ex (who was ANOTHER coworker), I think its best that you tell him that your catching feelings and might need to stop this before your feelings get worse, its never good to lose afriend

 

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