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Author Topic: Did I overreact or dodge a bullet?

May 13, 2019, 12:17:14 PM
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I have been dating a guy for about 6 weeks. A week ago, we had sex for the first time. During it, he put his hand on my throat, which made me uncomfortable so I stopped the whole thing. A week later, we met for drinks, and he asked me why I stopped him. I told him I am not comfortable with that kind of thing. He explained that his ex really liked it and so he thought all women did. I told him the conversation was making me uncomfortable and that I was going to go home. Later that night, he blocked me on social media, and I have not heard from him since (I have not tried to contact him). Did I overreact by leaving the bar or did I dodge a bullet?

May 16, 2019, 03:43:18 PM
Reply #1

Rami Kamal

I would say you overreacted, not saying putting a his hands on your thorat is ok ofcourse, but however from my minor understanding of what you wrote obviously his previous GF liked it he doesnt maybe know that every women has different likings in terms of sexual positions and other form of intercourse, he thinks its a standard thing and he wanted to show you hes got moves, but it CLEARLY backfired at him, all I can say is next time something like this happens talk to him talk about your likes and dislikes sexually, your not born with the knowledge of other sexual preferences therefore communication is something crucial especially during sex for a good relationship

goodluck and hope i Helped :)

May 20, 2019, 01:38:17 PM
Reply #2


I don't think you overreacted. You clearly stated that that was something that made you uncomfortable and it's not your fault he didn't want to respect that.

June 24, 2019, 05:58:04 AM
Reply #3


Feeling uncomfortable doing it is one thing. You may have overreacted with the conversation. If you're going to be intimate with someone there should be space to openly discuss things.

June 25, 2019, 01:59:23 PM
Reply #4

Dating Diva

You dodged a SERIOUS bullet. Before people do any kind of extreme things to another person's body, they are supposed to ask permission. Communicate to see if you are into those kinds of things. So what his ex liked it? What kind of lame ridiculously immature response is THAT?? You aren't her! Neither are millions of other women her. To see all women as a group instead of individuals proves that his mind is not right and his thinking is skewed.

This guy demonstrated a marked lack of respect and is a poor lover. He is supposed to be delivering what YOU like in bed, not what someone else liked. And the fact that he is in bed with you but thinking about what SHE liked also proves he is not over her yet. I think you did the right thing and if he didn't block you, you should have blocked him anyway.

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