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Author Topic: Is he being distant? Or it's just my intimacy issues?

April 18, 2019, 11:08:35 PM
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Blue Soul


This guy who used to have a crush on me on high school, texted me this August after 6 years. First I was cold because I thought we can't have something. We texted from time to time, some random flirty lines until mid January. Then from that time I don't know what happened, we got too close, it was intense and fast. He was caring, sweet and paid me full attention. I was still a bit hesitant cause I had never been in love and in a relationship. But it was beautiful. Then after two months I realised I'am in love. But suddenly I started to panic, I felt like I lost something. He started to get distant, not replying to me like always, prioritising his job, not mentioning the nice words to me anymore. When I tell him about this change, he sometimes denies it, sometimes tells he me it's just his routine, but when I start getting distant he gets angry. I try to show him that I care to the point of being clingy and emotionally dependent. I can't help but cry everyday. How can I handle this? I sometimes consider to end it but I think I might regret it later cause I'd think I let my issues get between us.
What do I do?

April 19, 2019, 12:39:39 AM
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SomethingMissing004


You sound a lot like me and what I'm going thru. I'm sorry you're going thru heartache that you cannot explain and don't know which way is up. It sounds like maybe he's confused and needing space to figure things out. It may not even have anything to do with you, it may be something completely outside of your control, like his job or a family issue. Unfortunately, guys do that when something big bothers them; they need to fix it before they feel whole again and able to devote themselves to their other priorities as well. If he is confused or scared about what's going on btwn the two of you, you'll have to decide if you can and want to be patient. Rushing things and trying to push him into realizing what you had was and is still great will only push him away most likely. I wish I had a better answer but this is slowly what I, myself, am realizing happens with men and love when they're not ready for who they may see as "the one." Best of luck to you ❤

 

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