So. I met this guy on an app and we were a match. I reached out to him first but he made the first move in setting up our first date/meeting. So the day we’re supposed to meet, I get a text message from him an hour beforehand and it appears to be an “accidental” text where he’s talking about having met other girls and how he liked them and is planning on seeing them again.

I texted him back asking if he had the wrong person and he apologized saying it was for his friend and that he was embarrassed. I found this really weird because we weren’t texting a lot up until that point so I found it strange he would accidentally text me. At first I expressed to him that I didn’t want to be played with but then I said I would give him another chance because he does have the right to test out the field seeing as he’s not committed to anyone.

So we still agree to meet and once we did I was absolutely enthralled by him. This guy was already nearly perfect on paper/on the web but after meeting him in person, it was like meeting my dream guy. He is EVERYTHING I could ever want in a man and the date went great. We were never stuck for conversation, he said I was attractive and he paid for the date.

Now I don’t know what happened but after the date and after texting each other that we had a really good time, he told me he didn’t feel a romantic connection. I’m absolutely dumbfounded because he seemed so into the date, even offered to walk me back and told me to text him when I got back home. I hate to say it but I’m absolutely heartbroken right now. I’m so into this guy-more than any other guy I’ve ever met, and for him to say that when things seemingly went great is just so painful. He’s about 10 years older than me so I don’t know if that’s it? But then why would he ask me out...when we talk the age difference isn’t even noticeable because we mesh so well for conversation.

Anyway I’m torn right now because I really want closure on what happened and I haven’t been able to sleep thinking about this guy. My question now is if I should send him another message expressing how I truly feel about him. I think maybe I wasn’t open enough on the date about expressing my attraction to him and I want him to know that I’m really into him. I don’t want to come off as obsessed but this is bothering me to the point where I can’t stop thinking about him and can’t sleep because even though we’ve only met once, I’ve absolutely fallen for him and no other guy I’ve talked to comes even close.

Help!