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Author Topic: Do you think he’s into me?

July 23, 2019, 12:36:36 AM
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JibberJabber


Hello Everyone, I’ll try to keep this brief. About two weeks ago I was asked out by a guy and I went out with him twice now. (First date: dinner, but we didn’t eat anything because I was feeling nauseous due to the date, and second date: movie, horror, was a good movie but really gruesome). I’m struggling because this guy is perfect in every way. On the first date he was ready to full blow make out, but I am a coward and ran away, (in a cute way, of course). And I told him I was afraid, because i’ve Never kissed anyone before, (I am very sheltered). Anyway, he not a strong texter, but when I’m with him he’s amazing. So your probably wondering what the problem is. The problem is, he is drop dead handsome, and well I’m not even a 4/10, I’m overweight, short, acne, etc. He taller then me, strong, handsome, his teeth are adorable, he is even attending collage and works really hard to support himself. He’s funny smart, likes communication, accepts when I set broundrys. Now I know i’ve only known him for a short time, but he’s just so amazing so far, nicer and better then any guy i’ve Met. I’m just afraid that I’m f***ing up the realtionship. I can’t seem to read him very well off of his text messages, and I’m always scared to be to clingy or dramatic. He takes a long time to answer my messages, and (yes, I know he has a life). He also after the 2nd date, I told him I wanted to “take things slow, because I don’t want to mess up a good thing”. He didn’t ask me out again and I can’t tell if it’s becuase he trying to take things slow or if it’s becuase he’s lost interest becuase I’m a complete loser. I gathered up my courage to ask him out my self and he seemed down, we took a while figuring out where we could go, (because I’m sheltered I have no clue about the world 5 blocks from my house) and we decided to go hiking. (I know, I know, worst idea for a fat girl to make, but whatever). He told me he needed to check his work schedule, and get back to me but he hasent really gotten back to me yet. Also he’s leaving soon and won’t be back for a while and I really want to see him before he goes. I’m sure this relationship is fine, I’m just a low self esteem, puddle of anxiety, and I’m having a hard time believing he’s even real tbh. So any advice would be great!
~ The Jibber Jabber Wocky

July 23, 2019, 03:32:00 PM
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dissonance


Speaking as another anxious and bigger girl, I think its important to confront the way you think/talk about yourself before confronting your romantic relationships. Trust me- being down on yourself, even as a joke, it'll only hurt you and make you feel worse in the end. Nobody is perfect, including this guy! Based on your description I think he does like you, but if you focus on how sheltered you are or how perfect you think he is and how imperfect you think you are, that'll only send him uneasy messages. Its more important to consider your comfort level and your ability to try new things rather than whether or not you're good enough. He asked you out! Obviously this "perfect" guy thinks your hot! So lean into that! trick yourself into loving yourself because believe me it'll help in so many ways.

July 25, 2019, 03:27:30 PM
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JibberJabber


Thanks for the advice, I will call upon my inner confidence and love myself more. :)
~ The Jibber Jabber Wocky