They dated for 2 years 5 years ago and broke up . I've always been just his friend. He kept waiting for her but she rejected him one last time last year and then he asked me out. We are happy together but it seems he is still in touch with her. He said he doesn't meet up with her but i found out recently he has been  having phone sex with her ( throughout the whole time we were dating)because she is living in another state. I don't believe in sex or even kissing before marriage but i'm being the best girlfriend i can be to him. Am i not enough? And why does it seem like he is always ready to help her . She has a lot of problems in her life and i feel like he always wants to save her and be her hero and says he loves her as a friend. But Why the phone sex?Maybe when we marry i can finally satisfy him?

Yes. He chose you! Competition won! I think that is the best way of looking at it

Phone sex means he's unfaithful. :/ That's not great.

After finding out about the phone sex, I wouldn't be able to trust him. Do what feels right. But now that you know he's doing things behind your back, you're constantly going to be questioning him, and you're just going to hurt yourself in the process.

 I am in a somewhat similar situation..

The ex is calling him and he is honest about the communication.  Not sure if they talk Intimately..

I just go with the flow right now but if I find out that he chooses to be with someone else..  or if they are talking Intimately.  I will walk away.   Why be the one fighting for something that is one sided?   I don't like to share..

This is bad news. He should not be having phone sex or any kind of sex with another woman if he's in a relationship with you. You need to know your own self worth. If he needs to be "satisfied" and you want to wait to be married to do this, it sounds like a major clash of values. I'd honestly suggest finding someone whose values align with your own. It might be difficult, but better for you in the end.

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It is important to communicate your sexual desires, for both of you. You can say that you are being the best gf to him but you need to see it from his point of view and not just yours! It is important to communicate and if your life values defers from him then maybe both of you are the right person for each other! Maybe you need someone whom is only okay with sex and kissing after marriage! If you meet that guy, then you wldnt worry about him having phonesex with others as this is against his values. And if you cannot find such a guy, maybe your benchmark is a bit too intense! That being said, you need to think of how you want to handle this and the most important thing is mindset.

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#1: Play Hard to Get

#2: Rock His World

#3: Laugh at His Jokes

#4: Find Strength in Numbers

#5: Appeal to His Sensual Side

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