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Voting closed: January 02, 2019, 01:09:46 PM

Author Topic: WHO SHOULD PAY?

December 19, 2018, 01:09:46 PM
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Women all over the world are advocating for equality. I have been known to advocate for equality for women so I agree that women should be treated as equals in ALL things. Including who pays on a date. Do you agree? Should women be expected to pay for dates with no contribution from the men?

December 22, 2018, 04:41:29 PM
Reply #1


I personally think that a man should bear the expenses for a date. I consider this a gentleman's move. I agree for the equality, but this is just something that is natural.

December 29, 2018, 09:50:36 AM
Reply #2


As a gentleman, I think the man should always pay the bill. I just feel uncomfortable whenever my girlfriend pays the bill.

January 14, 2019, 02:56:07 PM
Reply #3


Women all over the world are advocating for equality. I have been known to advocate for equality for women so I agree that women should be treated as equals in ALL things. Including who pays on a date. Do you agree? Should women be expected to pay for dates with no contribution from the men?

some responses yet no votes!

I personally believe that the man should pay for the date, in the first date, but after that then it should be split equal!

you can't ever expect one side of the relationship to consistently pay for every date, that's wrong and if you're doing that then you need to re-think the relationship!

January 21, 2019, 09:05:07 PM
Reply #4


Hi, It is necessary for the Guy to pay on first date and it seems good for the first date. for 2nd date girl should pay

March 16, 2019, 09:50:18 PM
Reply #5


A man.  It shows that he is willing to care for you in some way.

March 28, 2019, 03:35:23 AM
Reply #6


I would never let a woman pay i absolutely love spoiling girls, probably to a fault but it makes me feel good.

May 08, 2019, 11:49:11 AM
Reply #7


As a woman myself, I prefer to split the bill and let each person pay for their own expenses. I have my own money and would feel extremely uncomfortable is someone refused to let me pay for the things I want for myself, especially if it went on. Of course I don't mind being treated to something once in a while, but then I'd also like to be allowed to treat my partner to something just as often.

May 14, 2019, 04:36:43 PM
Reply #8


As a gentleman, I always would want to pay. And especially if it is me that has asked her on the date. For me personally, I like to pay however if it is a girlfriend then I wouldn't mind alternating between paying. But don't make it a priority.

June 02, 2019, 08:51:29 AM
Reply #9


As a woman, I usually expect the man to pay. I might be a little old fashioned in that regard, but it feeps like he wants to and can take care of me.

July 02, 2019, 04:22:53 PM
Reply #10


If I go on a first date with a guy and he doesn't at least offer to get the bill its a real turn off. I don't think that the guy should have to pay all the time but at least to offer on the first date is a must. After that im all for taking turns. He pays, then I pay, he pays, I pay etc.

July 04, 2019, 08:01:40 PM
Reply #11


As a man, I almost always pay for the bill.. However sometimes she grabs the check before I can and pays it.

July 25, 2019, 12:23:28 PM
Reply #12


I would say definitely a man should pay . It’s only right

August 02, 2019, 01:10:13 AM
Reply #13


I think the man should pay that is the kind to be great in woman eyes in the 1st date. And in my country that is like a traditional. Then later a girl can buy another gift for him or invite him for a milk tea next time. So many way for a girl to express her appriciation for him. For me Im okay with he or I pay or equally . :P :P :P

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August 07, 2019, 11:51:24 AM
Reply #14


I believe in equality. I also think in a first date situation it's polite for the one who asked for the date to pay. Girl or guy it doesn't matter. Then it will lead to another date which if you like each other is great!! 😊😊

August 13, 2019, 08:03:26 AM
Reply #15


It all depends on who is brought up, who wants and how it will be right. It would be most logical to ask the girl if she would be against or if she wants to join.

September 23, 2019, 06:29:06 AM
Reply #16


I have become conflicted on this issue, as I have begun going on dates with a girl who insists on paying for everything. Often we just come to the conclusion that we will just split the bill.

October 19, 2019, 04:05:56 AM
Reply #17


I’ve always thought as a women I pay my own way but if a man insists I let him. My fella has always insisted on picking up the tab. Even when we were just friends. He won’t let his mother niece or nephews pay for their meals or movies ether. I will say it kind of grew on me over time. Kind of a act of a affection on his part to provide. By no means do I think he should be obligated to it though. Now that we live together and he insists on keeping my kids and I fed. Along with covering entertainment and other random wants/needs. I let him run that show and I cover the utilities. The rent we just split. He likes things that way so I roll with it but most relationships I myself never expected a guy to cover my cost of anything. There are some girls that expect it though or if they are invited to something it could be expected you we’re gonna cover it because it was your idea. You could hint to her that you don’t intend to pay by giving her a heads up what the prices are. “Cover is $10” “drinks are around $5” “plates are usually $10-$25” “I wouldn’t mind going in on a appetizer if you want” there are hints that could be given. It’s probably better to choose one side of the fence before that first date so she knows if she needs to be prepared to pay and if she is a girl that just expects to be paid for she will know she is barking up the wrong tree. Sometimes it is polite to at least offer to pick up one of her drinks though as a simple thank you for excepting the date and coming out. Or if you are more comfortable picking up the first check. When you do the check dance. You take the check and say” I hope you don’t mind. Since it’s the first date and I asked. I think I should cover this one” think she doesn’t get thrown by paying if she didn’t expect it and it’s implied that you are not a everytime check grabber.
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November 05, 2019, 03:58:33 AM
Reply #18

Captain Black

I have always worked to the rule that its the person who asks for the date should pay regardless of the gender of that person .

So I guess it doesn't fit within the poll .

January 05, 2020, 01:12:44 AM
Reply #19


How about you pay for your food, and they pay for theirs?

January 09, 2020, 08:29:52 AM
Reply #20


Bill should split equally  :). or you guys can pay by your turn.
Family Dispute Resolution Mediator and Practitioner in Victoria, Australia.

February 01, 2020, 09:07:09 AM
Reply #21


I personally think taking turns paying for dates is acceptable.

February 16, 2020, 04:04:11 PM
Reply #22


I think the man should on the first date.

March 01, 2020, 07:54:27 PM
Reply #23


I think it shows a man's character and how he is going to treat you throughout the relationship if he wants to always pay. But I think every situation is different and I think it is completely acceptable for a woman to pay or at least offer to pay.