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April 12, 2018, 07:29:32 AM
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erik


I'm normally a very headstrong person, but what I suddenly realized was that all of my strength came from my partner's support, and now that it's gone entirely, I feel more fragile than ever. I never had many friends and my family is rather astranged with me.

April 12, 2018, 01:03:05 PM
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I'm normally a very headstrong person, but what I suddenly realized was that all of my strength came from my partner's support, and now that it's gone entirely, I feel more fragile than ever. I never had many friends and my family is rather astranged with me.

That's awful, may I ask what happened?

The majority of people will have their first major break up, it's not nice, in fact, it's damn right horrible - but we all get through it, keep your head high and surround yourself with friends.
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April 14, 2018, 02:53:38 AM
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Jasonn


I had a situation similar to a breakup at one time.  I really liked this one girl, but I got a bad reputation (which wasn't my fault) somewhere down the line and trust broke down.  Pretty soon she didn't even want to be my friend and I helped things a long unfortunately by being a possessive type.

April 14, 2018, 11:00:59 PM
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amelia88


Breakups can be so hard, and so messy - and I have definitely had times before where I felt a loss of my sense of self. I mentioned it in another post of yours, but do you have any interests (sports, hobbies) that may have groups in your area? I think it's a really good way of meeting some new people and also getting involved in an activity to help keep your mind off things and doing something productive.

I wish you all the best - it's not easy but I always try and remind myself that we're resilient! Humans can get through a lot.

April 18, 2018, 05:14:44 AM
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Luckymadon


Many people lose their sense of self in their relationships. They identify and define themselves as "so and so's wife", or "So and so's husband" or even "So and so's mother/Father". This can be devestating on a person after a break up. They have no idea who they are or what their strengths and weaknesses are. It can be very frightening for them when they are left to figure it out on their own.

You can do this. It will be difficult at first, but think of it as being launched on a journey of self discovery.   :)

April 19, 2018, 07:29:26 PM
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muaaz.93


I understand from personal experience what it means to think you have your ideal mate, only to have that blow up in your face. Very painful. Don’t confine yourself. As I say this, I feel like the ultimate hypocrite because it’s like the first thing I do as an introvert. It’s hard, I know, but reach out to friends that you trust. Ask them about their break-up stories. We can all sympathize, and it helps to know you’re not alone.

April 27, 2018, 09:59:10 PM
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Patrick Y


I had a good friend who went to prison once.  It was shattering when he went.  Has anyone been thru something similar?  I think it's similar to a romance thing.