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Author Topic: Friend is being a pain. How to call out?

July 03, 2018, 07:35:22 AM
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Our friend’s totally being a pain in our a** right now. He’s totally being extra …. all the time and we don’t know how to call him out. He’s the type of person who says he’ll do something and when it’s inconvenient, he would back away. It’s like he loves starting something but leaves it hanging at the first sign of trouble and the worst part is we always get to clean up after him.

This time he’s planning on joining some Dream tours for singles or whatever that stupidity that is. For sure if this thing he’s planning will blow up to his face, he’ll leave it to us to solve his problem again. We’re so exhausted with him. How do we tell him to stop? We don’t want to insult him as well. Is there any polite way of calling out a friend?









July 03, 2018, 09:38:41 AM
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Our friend’s totally being a pain in our a** right now. He’s totally being extra …. all the time and we don’t know how to call him out. He’s the type of person who says he’ll do something and when it’s inconvenient, he would back away. It’s like he loves starting something but leaves it hanging at the first sign of trouble and the worst part is we always get to clean up after him.

This time he’s planning on joining some Dream tours for singles or whatever that stupidity that is. For sure if this thing he’s planning will blow up to his face, he’ll leave it to us to solve his problem again. We’re so exhausted with him. How do we tell him to stop? We don’t want to insult him as well. Is there any polite way of calling out a friend?

I would just approach him, it's not a school playground. I presume you're both grown adults.

Can you clarify what he's doing? Is he planning some activities with you, and then bailing last minute?
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July 20, 2018, 06:03:03 PM
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I can relate with this. I had a friend who was a different kind of annoying. He was really insensitive and always make rude jokes. Sort of like the abrasive type. I've learned that the best way to deal with them is be upfront and honest.

You don't have to sugar coat things. Just tell it as it is. But make sure you're not harsh or judgmental in your way of saying it. People understand disappointment when they hear it. It will be up to them on whether they decide to own up for their mistakes and learn or simply ignore it.

July 27, 2018, 01:11:15 PM
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There is no polite way of saying it, I think the best solution is to let him resolve its own problems in this way he will learn from his mistakes.