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July 04, 2019, 02:55:47 PM
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dawn375


Hi guys ,

Long story here so please bear with! My ex and I initially broke up in February this year after he felt things weren’t working . He wanted to travel alone and my mental health had been spiralling which put a huge strain on him and the relationship.

We then tried to make things work again until I found out he’d slept with someone else whilst I was travelling last year and even contemplated leaving me for her . After this , he turned really nasty and cold , refused to see me or talk about it and wanted nothing to do with me . We deeply loved eachother and had the most intimate , exciting relationship and often spoke about our future together and all of a sudden, he switched off and stopped caring .

After 6 weeks , he agreed to meet me to talk everything through and give me some closure . We had a great chat and he apologised and really seemed to take responsibility. We stupidly had a few drinks and he stayed over( you know the rest) after this , he ignored me again and said he was glad we cleared the air but didn’t want to see me again. I felt so hurt and used as we’d had very deep conversations that night and he’d admitted he still loved me and saw a future with me down the line.

Fast forward 4 weeks and I find out I’m pregnant . We haven’t spoken but I decide to tell him. He’s supportive at first , saying he’ll be there for me no matter what and that it’s my decision. His tone quickly changes as I suggest we meet up to discuss everything and he says he doesn’t think he should be there for me and he wants nothing to do with it or me whatever I decide . He then blocks me on everything so I cannot contact him until his mum gets involved and starts trying to influence me .

I really didn’t know what I was going to do regarding the baby but I ended up having a miscarriage  . I was absolutely broken and lost and despite him saying he didn’t want to know what I did, I thought he had a right to know so I told him. He replied saying he was glad the right thing had happened and that times change a lot and he’s sure they’ll change even more and wishing me a great year. Why can’t I stop fantasising about the incredible relationship we had and wanting him back despite all of this? Feeling very lost and alone . :'(

August 02, 2019, 05:35:49 AM
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AshleyTuong


Hi im a new member here too. I feel sorry and sad about your relationship. But I think if a man can hurt you from time to time then later you still expect to have a beautiful future with him i think it hard.
I broke up with my ex husband at the final month of my pregnancy. That was the most difficult time of my life but I finally get over it, and I got a great son now with me and become a single mom. Because we do have a wedding but havent sign the marriage certificate because I still not sure about him. And it is true that he is totally not for me and that is the right desision to end up with him.
I think you need time to make up your mind and think all about this, what he done good for you and bad with you. Then think about if you can handle all of this before keep continue with him.
About his family also a great support for you if his family like you and want him be with you.
I hope everything gonna be alright for you, and wish you all the best dear, sorry for my bad in English it is not my mother language and I just try my best to express my opinions.

When there is life there is hope

September 10, 2019, 12:51:27 AM
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jorge


To be brutally honest, this guy isn't serious about you; he goes back and forth and can't stick to anything long enough to show that he's serious. You ought to move on.






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