Author Topic: Would you let her go even if she means the world to you?

stupidbf35 · August 13, 2018, 07:57:02 AM

My friends are calling me martyr, stupid, idiot, douchebag and more because I can’t let go of the girl who made me realize I am worthy of being loved too. She cheated on me many times but I just can’t let her go. I know she’s been loving me this whole time. I was just away, that’s why she cheated. Am I wrong for still keeping her? I always believe that if you love someone, you shouldn’t let that someone go. I can’t afford seeing her with somebody else. I loved, love and will be loving her for sure. Is that wrong?

Corzhens · August 13, 2018, 09:24:11 AM

First off, you should understand that love is not a one-way street which means that both parties should benefit and enjoy the relationship. When only one party is enjoying and the other is uncomfortable then what do you think is that kind of relationship? When your lover wants to break off and you know that she is serious as to express her reason that it is you that she wanted to avoid then that means the end of the relationship. However, there are times that you can convince her to stay but that would depend on her reason for the break up. Just be fair in evaluating the situation. When you think she really wants to leave then so be it.

stupidbf35 · August 14, 2018, 09:16:47 AM

Quote from: Corzhens on August 13, 2018, 09:24:11 AM

First off, you should understand that love is not a one-way street which means that both parties should benefit and enjoy the relationship. When only one party is enjoying and the other is uncomfortable then what do you think is that kind of relationship? When your lover wants to break off and you know that she is serious as to express her reason that it is you that she wanted to avoid then that means the end of the relationship. However, there are times that you can convince her to stay but that would depend on her reason for the break up. Just be fair in evaluating the situation. When you think she really wants to leave then so be it.

Hey! Thank you for this comment and thanks for making me realize this relationship is more than toxic and is hurting me so much already. Thank you for somehow telling me what I should do.

sidica · August 14, 2018, 10:01:37 PM

Well, honestly if she cheated on you more than once it means that she doesn't care as much as you do for the relationship. I can't imagine me breaking my boyfriend's heart and then acting like everything is ok, and I feel sorry.
I think in this relationship you are the one who is in love, she may have some feelings for you but I don't think is love. There are many people selfish in this world and they won't let you go at least that you leave them first, and in many cases, these people are so toxic that they come back to find out if they can hurt you again if you give them the chance.
If you leave her, it will be hard at first, but you'll get recovered and one day all this situation will be only a bad memory or something you don't care at all anymore.
I think you should let her go, she will be fine, and you deserve to be with a person who really gets to feel the same way that you do and cares for you. Just leave her and take some time to heal yourself, then try it again with somebody else but this time make sure that the relationship is balanced and both are going in the same direction.

Martinsx · August 15, 2018, 10:30:46 AM

If she cheated on you more than once because you were not around, it shows that she never valued your relationship with her but rather she was all pretending to be in love with you.

My advice is to take your love somewhere else other wise you are going to be so heartbroken and messed up because she will keep sleeping with other men when you are not around.

RoseKaizer · August 17, 2018, 02:12:35 PM

Well if that is the right thing to do, im willing to give up even she or he means the world to me. Because i believe that person is destined to you, no matter what happen, someday both of you will be happy together.

NesMarcos · August 17, 2018, 10:39:27 PM

Quote from: stupidbf35 on August 13, 2018, 07:57:02 AM

My friends are calling me martyr, stupid, idiot, douchebag and more because I can’t let go of the girl who made me realize I am worthy of being loved too. She cheated on me many times but I just can’t let her go. I know she’s been loving me this whole time. I was just away, that’s why she cheated. Am I wrong for still keeping her? I always believe that if you love someone, you shouldn’t let that someone go. I can’t afford seeing her with somebody else. I loved, love and will be loving her for sure. Is that wrong?

I honestly believe that before you can love someone wholeheartedly, you should love yourself first. Love yourself in a way that you give importance to your well-being and by respecting yourself. If she has already cheated you not just once, you need to think many times if that someone is worth loving. If someone is in a relationship, even if it is a long distance relationship, one should not be committing her/himself to others. Relationship is not a 'one-way thing,' because relationship is the way in which two people feel and behave towards each other. If she truly loves you, she won't find anyone else.

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Would you let her go even if she means the world to you?

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