Author Topic: Why does he get so jealous easily?

msStaunch28 · September 07, 2018, 12:37:02 AM

At first I thought it was cute that he got jealous a lot but after a while, it’s just gotten to a point where it’s really annoying now. Why is my boyfriend like this? I don’t think I’ve ever given him a reason to doubt his trust in me. To top it all off, we just had our worst fight ever last night.

I was hired as a waitress for a foreign socials, while he got hired as one of the chefs. One of the guests got drunk and started hitting on me, to which I promptly shut him down. Despite this, he still got mad at me and stormed off after the event. I’m so sick of dealing with this and just want to understand why he’s acting this way.

goodevening · September 07, 2018, 02:36:21 PM

Quote from: msStaunch28 on September 07, 2018, 12:37:02 AM

At first I thought it was cute that he got jealous a lot but after a while, it’s just gotten to a point where it’s really annoying now. Why is my boyfriend like this? I don’t think I’ve ever given him a reason to doubt his trust in me. To top it all off, we just had our worst fight ever last night.

I was hired as a waitress for a foreign socials, while he got hired as one of the chefs. One of the guests got drunk and started hitting on me, to which I promptly shut him down. Despite this, he still got mad at me and stormed off after the event. I’m so sick of dealing with this and just want to understand why he’s acting this way.

He sounds like he's insecure, well, in fact, he is insecure!

Have you tried reassuring him? That he's only in your best interests and that no one else would be able to persuade you that your relationship with him isn't worthwhile?

He needs to work on his self-esteem, but all you can do is try your best to reassure him, but it's not healthy!

Hope you get this sorted soon.

PrettyLittleFears · November 17, 2018, 12:50:26 AM

Quote from: msStaunch28 on September 07, 2018, 12:37:02 AM

At first I thought it was cute that he got jealous a lot but after a while, it’s just gotten to a point where it’s really annoying now. Why is my boyfriend like this? I don’t think I’ve ever given him a reason to doubt his trust in me. To top it all off, we just had our worst fight ever last night.

I was hired as a waitress for a foreign socials, while he got hired as one of the chefs. One of the guests got drunk and started hitting on me, to which I promptly shut him down. Despite this, he still got mad at me and stormed off after the event. I’m so sick of dealing with this and just want to understand why he’s acting this way.

It possibly could be that he has trust issues. Maybe not from you but from other previous relationships. I knew a guy who would always assume I was hitting on other guys anytime I wasn't able to contact him or spend time with him. He later admitted that in one of his previous relationships, his girlfriend cheated on him so that's where the feelings stemmed from. I'm sure its not you.

James · November 18, 2018, 02:17:10 PM

Yes, as someone said, maybe his ex had cheated on him or did something he did not like, and now he just cant get rid of feeling that you will do that too, just try to understand him and maybe talk to him

gwhatdoiknow · November 18, 2018, 04:57:50 PM

I have "once upon a time" been a very jealous girlfriend to someone. I had a low self esteem, I had had a difficult childhood and had a great guy by my side. No amount of reassurance he gave me was enough for me. I ended up always wanting more, more was never enough. The problem is not you, its him. And you can try to ask him to go looking for professional help, try to see where his low self confidence grows from. You an try to help him, but you will not sort the issue for him. Is a work he needs to do willingly. Good luck. I am keeping positive thoughts for you and for your relationship.

Andja98 · December 17, 2018, 06:23:24 PM

His jealousy may depend on various factors. Maybe it's because he is very insecure about himself. Thinking that you're not good enough for the person you are with can be a big burden to bare. It's constant fear that your loved one will leave you for someone else (speaking from my own experience, unfortunately $:-\$ ). Jealousy is a big problem in most relationships, but in you case it's sound like possessive jealousy. He's victimazing himself and trying to make you feel bad for no reason. You deserve to be happy without constant anxiety.

cheyxie · December 31, 2018, 06:28:28 AM

it’s probably due to insecurity issues that come from him not trusting you enough or maybe a bad experience with an ex.

Tidusbonifidus · March 01, 2019, 01:16:59 PM

If you shut the guy down thats really good. I think most men would expect that and vice versa. It sounds like hes really insecure,and if you are not giving him a reason to be then this is his problem and that is'nt fair on you.

Idk if you've addressed it or not or spoke with him but if it continues then it might be a deal breaker for you? I dont think any woman finds insecurity in a man attractive. Atleast not in my experience anyway.

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