I think in a relationship you each have to be your own person. You have to pursue your own dream otherwise if you don't grow as a person it negatively affects the relationship. In my experience people who are happy make happy mates and happy mates make the best relationships. Yes you may have to sacrifice some time to make time for your partner, but take some time management classes and you will be just fine. Money without love is no fun, so create time to have both. You can have it all, in my experience.