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Author Topic: What to do when my girlfriend needs a “break.”

May 06, 2019, 12:00:57 PM
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Hi all,

This is my first post on this forum but it looks like a great place to get serious advice.

So I’ve been dating my girlfriend for 3 months. We met in January and things moved pretty quickly. We’re both kinda the same in that way, liking to move quick. Anyway, things were absolutely incredible between us. I’d never felt so strongly for a woman in my life and she would tell me how wonderful I was. She wanted me to come see her any chance we got and I did. I’d send her little videos before I went to work and she loved them.

In late March she had gotten some health related scares and she kinda shut herself down. We didn’t stop talking but I could tell it was weighing heavily on her, so I reminded her that I’m always going to be there for her, good or bad. She’s still going through these health problems and I’ve remained by her side the whole time. Problem is, I haven’t seen her in a little over a month. She says she doesn’t feel like herself and is currently staying with her sister for a bit. Even before her going to her sister’s, she had become a little distant and she’d take longer and longer to reply to my texts.

So two days ago I sent her another little video of me playing guitar for her and that night before I went to bed, I left her a voice message just saying I love you and I’m always gonna be here for no matter what. The next morning I wake up to a message saying I’m too clingy and lovey dubey and it’s not making her feel better. Then she says at the end of the message “I need a break.” I responded back that I’d stop that if it annoys her.

Maybe I am too lovey dubey but she knew that from the start. I told her how my parents basically didn’t even like each other and that’s why I’m like that, because I want my girlfriend to feel loved and appreciated. Well I haven’t talked to her in a couple days now and I’m quite confused as to what to do. Do I let her contact me first? Do I go see other people? Any advice that can be given I’ll gladly respect.

May 08, 2019, 08:17:11 PM
Reply #1


Since it's a health-related matter, maybe you should really give yourself a time where you wait for her to come around
like maybe 1 month.
And if things don't get better, I suggest you start moving on because it might as well be a way for her to politely
break up with you ...

Great guys are never valued...

May 27, 2019, 11:06:36 AM
Reply #2


First, I am sorry that she is having health issues and secondly I am also sorry that you are going through this.

I am thinking that you should give her time and space. Btw-I love that you are lovey dovey...most woman would love this, but seeing as tho she does not, are you sure you two are even compatible?

The other point I’d like to make is that having health issues should warrant the support that you are trying to give her. I don’t understand why she wouldn’t want you by her side when she needs you the most. Good luck to you, you sound like a phenomenal partner.


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