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Author Topic: HELP!!! SEX DEPRIVED IN MY RELATIONSHIP...

February 03, 2019, 05:21:51 AM
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skp27


So I’ve been dating my boyfriend since the end of May/beginning of June. I’m 25 and he’s about to turn 32. Things are so so great between us and he treats me so well. We can talk about anything, have intellectual conversation, joke, play around, and spend literally every second with each other for days without getting tired of each other. I can spend days and nights at his house without leaving (we can work from home) and we never get annoyed with each other. We’ve never really fought or had arguments (mostly because I think we’re both not people that get fired up that easily) so if something one of us does is bothering the other we can talk about it calmly, easily and in a lighthearted way and come to a solution quickly. That being said, we rarely have sex and it’s bothering me so much. He’s not a big fan of physical affection and isn’t a huge fan of cuddling. For example, when we watch a movie or tv show together and I want to cuddle up with him on the couch, he says he wants his personal space. Sometimes he let’s me cuddle up with him but only after me persisting. I want to respect his personal space but I crave physical touch with him.
Additionally, I have never thought of myself to be overwhelmingly touchy.

He told me he will never initiate sex because he claims it feels “rapey” for him as a guy to initiate it. I’ve told him many times that I give him full permission to touch me anywhere at anytime he wants to but he says he wants me to initiate sex. Every time I try to initiate it or verbally ask him if he wants to, he immediately turns me down and offers excuses that he’s tired or just doesn’t respond and changes the subject. When I try to kiss him and touch him he usually pushes me off after a little. We have sex once a month if I’m lucky and the last 2 times we never finished because he wasn’t in the mood after a while so we stopped. I’ve asked him several times if there’s anything I can do to turn him on or ask what he wants or anything but he says he just isn’t in the mood and that it’s not me. I think I look good as far as appearances go and in past relationships have never had problems with men about my looks. I can’t help but feel rejected and I crave the physical affection we lack. I’ve told him about a hundred times how I feel rejected and he always tells me I shouldn’t feel that way. I crave and need that physical affection and want a relationship with a healthy and active sex life. What should I do?
« Last Edit: February 03, 2019, 05:31:02 AM by skp27 »

 

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