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April 20, 2018, 08:50:14 AM
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Yannie


I always have this urge to access my husband's social media accounts and scan from post to post, messages to messages, likes to likes, etc., just to spy on him whether he has any extra curricular activities outside from work or home. Well, it's not that I don't trust my husband. He's just too friendly that maybe some girls would fall for him. Just a hunch though. After all he gave me the passwords of all his social media accounts. I can even access his phone anytime.
I am just wondering. What's the point of not accessing them if he personally gave me the passwords? Am I doing the right thing? He's not aware of this though.
« Last Edit: April 20, 2018, 09:16:45 AM by Support »

April 20, 2018, 11:10:22 AM
Reply #1

amelia88


This is a tough one...my husband is the same way, he's super nice to people - very polite and respectful, and it has caused people to get the wrong idea before...they mistake politeness for flirting!

The problem is as soon as you start going through messages, even if they've given you the password, there's always the issue that they will probably bring up, which is that you don't trust them. I guess I always hope that if someone was talking to my husband on social media and crossed a line that he would tell them to go jump!

April 20, 2018, 01:20:26 PM
Reply #2

Flowers


I think the real problem here is the motive behind you accessing your husband 's social media accounts. If you diligently look for something, even though there is nothing there, the universe will not disappoint you. Its either you genuinely are accessing his accounts for let's say getting to know him better or because there are some insecurities lurking somewhere deep inside.

April 20, 2018, 03:31:43 PM
Reply #3

sarangjaybee


I don't think it's a good thing to access your partner's social media accounts. This is actually a problem for most couples I know. Even if you're together, there should be a privacy sometimes. However, if he had given you his passwords, then I guess he just want you to know that he's not doing anything wrong and his assurance is his passwords which he had given to you.

However, if you don't really want to have misunderstandings, it's better to just create a social media account where the owner is the both of you. It's actually much better and all of the people around the world will really know that the two of you are a couple. Hence, a safer shield for assuming stalker girls.

April 21, 2018, 01:20:18 AM
Reply #4

chameli


When I decided to marry, I checked the facebook account of my proposed husband. I looked into his friend lists, photos, videos, posts, comments, replies, even likes. He had one female friend, who posed vulgar message, however, my proposed husband had not liked or responded to her posts.
After I got married, I asked password and checked messages. There was one message that made me pick up a fight. However, later I realized, how silly I was.

April 21, 2018, 01:10:22 PM
Reply #5

wallet


You are doing the right thing, he wants you to trust him if he gave you its passwords, still, you should always check him. If my wife would not do so maybe we would be separated right now.

April 21, 2018, 01:18:49 PM
Reply #6

kathness


I think that it isn't right. Even though he gave you his passwords you shouldn't spy on him like that. If you have any issues then you could ask him or approach him. In that way he would be aware that you don't really trust him and that you need more assurance from him.That is if, you trust your husband. But if you know that he's some kind of womanizer and he's not really trustworthy then go do that and spy on him. The truth shall set you both free.

April 21, 2018, 02:31:36 PM
Reply #7

albino


I always have this urge to access my husband's social media accounts and scan from post to post, messages to messages, likes to likes, etc., just to spy on him whether he has any extra curricular activities outside from work or home. Well, it's not that I don't trust my husband. He's just too friendly that maybe some girls would fall for him. Just a hunch though. After all he gave me the passwords of all his social media accounts. I can even access his phone anytime.
I am just wondering. What's the point of not accessing them if he personally gave me the passwords? Am I doing the right thing? He's not aware of this though.
Maybe you are doing things from your own perception or doubt in your husbands actions. I think you are doing the wrong thing because maybe your husband have trust on you or he is faithful enough to you that he gives you access to his privacy or he is showing you a way to make you feel secure about your relationship but you abuse your authority. It is okay if he don't find it out but I think it will hurt him if he discover what you did, because your action is an insult or you are showing no trust to him.

April 22, 2018, 07:56:27 AM
Reply #8

Patrick Y


There is always a possibility you could get caught.  For instance, what if you like something you see?  That's a sure way to get busted!

Anyway, there is also a chance that social media could develop apps for people to discover spying.  In fact, they might have already developed it!
« Last Edit: April 22, 2018, 07:58:01 AM by Patrick Y »

April 22, 2018, 09:21:29 AM
Reply #9

DenisMNE


Why would you spy on your partner ?

I understand the fear but fear will bite the health out of your body.

If you are scared your partner will do something, that will hapen with or without you worrying about it.

April 28, 2018, 02:37:11 AM
Reply #10

Patrick Y


A lot of spying can be done without passwords.  ;)  Anyway,  myself, I wouldn't want my girlfriend in my accounts, though, she might let me in hers.  But I wouldn't want to be in her business.

 

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