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Author Topic: Should I move?

April 06, 2019, 04:25:38 AM
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Thrwood


My fiance and I have known each other for 15 years. We've dated, had flings and even gone 4 years without talking because we just lost contact as life took us opposite directions.

I moved to my dream city 1500 miles aways from where he lives almost 5 years ago and 8 months ago we reconnected. We have since debated dating as we knew this was and would be the last go, if it didnt work out we couldnt be friends any longer as we are both head over heels. We're engaged now and moving plans are being discussed.

I live in my dream city, dream weather, dream job and my elderly sick parents followed me down here because I said I was never moving back and they wanted to be closer to me. Getting engaged to whom I consider my soulmate wasnt in the cards at that point.

He lives where he grew up, with a job he hates, wants to move here but has 3 children. Every bone in my body equally wants to be by his side and move but also wants to stay with everything Ive worked my rear off for. Im at a major cross road and dont want to make the wrong choice and either lose him or possibly resent him ...

August 31, 2019, 07:15:25 AM
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miap123


Don't move! Stay where you are. All those things you described - the job, the weather etc. become really important once that in-love stage wears off. I'd say you may even just be feeling a little too emotional now because you miss him. That feeling - missing him - may make you want to make stupid decisions.
If he loves you, he'll come to you. Plus, he sounds like he hates his job so maybe a move would be good for him.
My advice: do not budge! Relationships aren't worth it, because they come and go and soulmates don't exist when there are 7 billion people on this planet.

 

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