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July 19, 2018, 09:52:36 AM
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nicholas89


It has been 15 years since my parents separated and I did not know the reason behind that break up. After my mom’s sacrifices for my sister and I, she deserves to be happy. I know that. However, I don’t want her to just jump over the person she had just met at a foreign socials event. She’s my mom, so I am concerned for her. When I told her to be familiar with the man first before committing, she got mad at me. I am not being judgmental here, I just want to know she is safe with whoever she wants to be with. I am a man myself and I know when the guy wants a serious relationship or not. How should I explain that to her without appearing villain?

July 19, 2018, 03:18:07 PM
Reply #1

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It has been 15 years since my parents separated and I did not know the reason behind that break up. After my mom’s sacrifices for my sister and I, she deserves to be happy. I know that. However, I don’t want her to just jump over the person she had just met at a foreign socials event. She’s my mom, so I am concerned for her. When I told her to be familiar with the man first before committing, she got mad at me. I am not being judgmental here, I just want to know she is safe with whoever she wants to be with. I am a man myself and I know when the guy wants a serious relationship or not. How should I explain that to her without appearing villain?

I'd have a chat with her about how you want her to be happy and that you're looking after here.

But you can't dictate who she can and can't love / be in a relationship with, I don't think!
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July 20, 2018, 04:26:02 PM
Reply #2

Noahhh


Finding the right time matter. It is about finding the chance. Do not get straight to the topic. You must approach your mom first, made some conversation, like about your childhood. Then slowly bring the topic of you really care for her. Don't make yourself as a villain, but help her to know the guy more. You can also give the guy some time, maybe you are wrong, but you may also be right about that guy. Just always care about your mom, she will notice all your love and maybe consider your advice.

July 20, 2018, 08:24:24 PM
Reply #3

wallet


It is normal to be protective with your mom but you should let her build her life, she deserves to be happy and she must learn from her mistakes and relationships, you can't do this in her place, just let her live her life.

July 22, 2018, 12:42:27 PM
Reply #4

QueenFarLou


I understand you are worried and you're only being protective of her but it's a decision only she can make. Maybe try to get to know the guy, who knows he could really be your mom's second chance at love. If this guy makes your mom happy, maybe give them a chance.

July 28, 2018, 09:08:03 AM
Reply #5

Momon16


I think you should let her..Its her choice.She has her own freedom and thinking.Shes getting older ,give her what she wants..If you saw your mom happy with her boyfriend then let her.But if the man is hurting your mom then it is your time to enter in their relationship and to tell your mom to end it :)

July 31, 2018, 04:41:50 AM
Reply #6

orfia


well, if your mom love it then let her to love only if your mom is single and no longer married to your father, second is if you're not going to let her, she will going to take the relationship secretly and we as a child don't like that because as a child we all wants to get updated to our parents lives, there are also some reason why you have to let your mom and one of that is maybe becase your mom get bored and she wants to feel how to fall in love again and how's the feeling of beeing in love, second is maybe she dont want to be alone in the near future beause woman wants care and wants to be protected also because she maybe thinking that you are married or maybe if you're not married you will be getting married and she dont want to live alone so that let her what she wants but make sure she chooses the right man for her in order not to get hurt because a lot of children hate seeing thier parents crying and get hurt because it is also painful to a child to watch that.

August 03, 2018, 01:31:12 PM
Reply #7

Lissiel


You can't control your mom's decision like she can't control yours. She is already old enough to handle her life. All you can do is to be with her no matter what. The important things you already shared your opinion or your feelings to her about the guys she's dating. For now, just let your mom do what she wants. As long as you don't have the specific evidence that he is not good for your mom, it's better for you just to keep quiet. It will just upset your mom when you keep on telling her negative things about the guy she's seeing and you don't want to have a gap between you and your mom because of that. For now, support her, it will make her happy.

 

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