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Author Topic: Should I end my relationship? (Weight Shaming)

February 05, 2019, 10:32:50 PM
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EmberKev11


So, I don’t even know where to begin. My BF and I are high school “sweethearts”. When we first started dating I was a petite size. Fast forward to college, I gained a bunch of weight due to unhealthy eating, stress, etc. mind you, he went through the same situation (because we live together and had the same bad eating habits). A couple of months ago, I decided that I needed to lose weight. I was tired of being overweight, and I missed my small size. So, I started off with a diet change. Probably one of the hardest transitions, but I managed to change it. During this time, my bf started getting very very upset if I ate even an ounce of something that he thought was not good for me. At first, I thought maybe he was just trying to make sure I stayed on track. He even said so himself. But then, he would start yelling at me and get upset even if I joked about eating “fries” or something along that line. We argued about this a lot and I continuously pleaded with him about how much I am trying to lose weight. One night, he admitted that he miss the way I used to look. To be honest, I do as well, and I agreed. Now, I have managed to lose over 30 lbs and I still have a long ways to go. I have milestones and everything. Recently, we both graduated college and we are now in the process of looking for work.Which means no money lol. A couple of weeks ago, I told him that I have to be more strict with my diet. He seemed excited that I said that. Out of the blue today, he was acting very distant, yelling at me, and just being very mean. When I asked him what was wrong, he said that he wants me to lose weight.....I was so confused because that’s what I’ve been doing. I am doing the best I can. And what makes it even more annoying is that I’m the one who wants to lose weight for myself, it was not his idea. Anyway, he started comparing me to “what if you turn out to be like the other women who gain weight in their 9-5?” I was annoyed by that and told him that those females have nothing to do with me and I am losing weight on my own. I even went to say that I am not like those females. The reason I said this is because I come from a very fit family. I’ve been overweight for 4 years out of the 18 years I’ve been alive. He responded to what I said sarcastically “yea...you’re not like other females”.....I am trying my best to stay as positive as I can. And what makes matters even more funny, he is no where near the weight I imagine him to be(for my preferences). I have never made him feel ashamed of himself and I have never told him anything like he does to me. He left work and didn’t even want to talk to me. Idk what to do anymore. 

 

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