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Author Topic: Right to proceed or not

May 20, 2019, 05:28:47 PM
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Rutvi


I have a boyfriend who is very sensitive about things between us. I could sense his sincerity. But he doesn't believe in marriage or long term relationship. I have dated before as well but never felt this way. I feel loved, respected and wanted. But he doesn't hope for something more than the time we spend together. We are intimate emotionally. We talk for hours and hours about our personal stuff. We didn't have sex yet. I badly want to work this out. Can I really hope for marriage? I told him my intentions about the relationship. He told me that he won't get convinced for long term relationship. I am afraid that I will ruin what we have. Please advice

May 20, 2019, 06:12:46 PM
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Mahleigha


Hi Rutvi,

I am new here so bare with me :)

How long have you two been together?

If not too personal, may I ask how old he is?  If he is younger - he may just need time.  If he is older - he may have baggage that he is afraid of. 

In either situation, I would weigh YOUR options.  Either enjoy what you have with him, and be patient and maybe eventually he will decide he wants a committed relationship, which could ultimately end up hurting you more if he is dead set on this, OR, cut out now and find someone with the same goals in mind.  A lot of factors could be at play here.  Maybe he is scared.  Maybe he is not ready to give up his freedom and feels that a long term relationship will squash his personal time.  Some relationships work better only seeing each other 2 to 3 times a week.  Others need more time together to be stabilized. 

Has he said WHY he doesn't want to take things to another level?

 

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