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February 04, 2020, 12:46:45 AM
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Leahdk4


Short version.  Met a guy through a mutual friend. In the beginning he was attentive and eager to help me in any way he could. He listened and responded when I talked, as if it really mattered to him. After a few weeks the sex started, then the feeling of being a couple without formally discussing it. And here is when it started to go in another direction. He promised to fix my truck and instead of money I could let him use an older truck I had. I agreed and felt confident that he would do what he said. He borrowed money from me and had the spare truck towed to his house. He told me he loved me and even though  i was picking up weird vibes I believed him.  He started asking me for money all the time. He called my spare truck "His" and never did work on my other truck. At this point he was only reaching out to me when he needed something and I felt like he was pulling away but when I tried to talk about it, he would assure me that wasn't true, he had just been busy. He wouldn't commit to plans with me anymore and stood me up a few times. One week he said he loved me and missed me on Wednesday, by Friday he wasn't responding to anything. The last time I seen him he asked me to buy him something and bring it to him which I did. Briefly he said he was coming over to work on my truck- still waiting on that to happen. Today I found out he blocked my number. Still no explanation of what went wrong. He reads my messages but doesn't respond. What do I do now? I don't want to let him keep the truck since he didn't fix the other one but I don't want to call the law on him either. I feel like I deserve an answer at least. I did anything he asked of me and then some. What happened? How do I get him to communicate?

February 04, 2020, 07:16:04 PM
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Boss Kijod


Hi leah

It's obvious. You got scammed. This guy don't deserve you. Call the police if the guy won't return everything. Don't waste your time to him anymore.


February 10, 2020, 05:08:55 AM
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burnt#out


This seems to be a bit similar to what I am currently going through.
Met a guy - we connected emotionally - he said he loved me - I reciprocated the same way - the whole honeymoon phase began minus getting completely intimate - a couple of months later, he starts ignoring me - even ignores my attempts to break up citing reasons like he still loves me and is just busy. It's eight months already since the ignoring phase began. Today, I found out he has blocked my number. I am so confused and tired. Can someone please advise what I can do next?

February 11, 2020, 09:33:23 PM
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luke092601


This seems to be a bit similar to what I am currently going through.
Met a guy - we connected emotionally - he said he loved me - I reciprocated the same way - the whole honeymoon phase began minus getting completely intimate - a couple of months later, he starts ignoring me - even ignores my attempts to break up citing reasons like he still loves me and is just busy. It's eight months already since the ignoring phase began. Today, I found out he has blocked my number. I am so confused and tired. Can someone please advise what I can do next?

I’m sorry this all happened first off. Know that it wasn’t your fault and that it’s probably best to move on from this situation, because going back would mean him doing it again.

February 14, 2020, 12:16:50 AM
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burnt#out


Hi. Thank you for replying. I got tired of the whole situation so I took control and tried calling him from another number. He did pick up my call and acted as if he couldn't hear anything then blocked that number as well. So, I messaged him on his number telling him that it was prudent to talk at that time. He didn't reply to any of my messages. As a last resort, I messaged him on Messenger ending the whole thing. Still no response on that as well. Looks like he read my message and has either blocked me there or has ended his account there. Whatever the case, at least it's clear now that it has Ended.

All said and done, this is now the most difficult stage for me. To deal with this. The loneliness, the questions like why he behaved the way he did, the replay of memories. I have always been so strong and self-reliant but now I am at a loss to understand how do I erase him, erase this excruciating pain from my life. It's affecting my daily life. I am becoming a loner and not able to enjoy being with myself anymore. I am becoming weak. I don't like this new person that I am becoming.

Please help.

February 26, 2020, 03:02:47 PM
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MusicalMuffin68


To me it sounds like his intentions were elsewhere instead of being invested in you. I hate when people do this dumb stuff because in the end it hurts so much.

 

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