Hi dude,
I can understand your ordeals but its' like looking into the mirror of my own marriage.
You see I am a nurse manager in a medical centre in charge of operating theatre surgical procedures.
My hubby is highly critical of me as a person, a spouse, about my upbringing, my past and my everything.
He claims that unless to him; IF our relationship is only a 1 nite stand potential;
there's no need for him to point out every area of improvements for both of us, since its' a life journey- together,
he did what he believed.
I am so stressed up at work as there are often several different disciplines in cases each day at my work place;
ranging from minor to some rather complicated surgical cases.
Thus I felt worse in his persistent perfectionist styled marriage and idealistic aspirations.
But look dude, I knew he loves me dearly thus he is going through such pains to correct things;
I had met guys whom don't give a shxx; thus they won't be bothered at all.
It takes great pain/ effort/ time and it can be very draining for him, I can imagine.
Still, I allowed my crazy BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) nature to disrupt my marriage time and again;
just to name 1 simple self harming action (There are quite a handful actually) which I did over the past decade
- I can cut my own arms with a broken glass piece over and over again; just to spike him.
My mother was an alcoholic since my birth, she was diagnosed with this disorder.
So you get the picture dude?
He had never for once thought of referring me to a mental institution for treatments; or sending me to see a shrink.
Why? He doesn't want to jeopardise my healthcare career and most importantly;
he does not wish to hurt my dignity self esteem or see me struggling to deal with social stigmas as a mentally ill patient.
He doesn't mind my past, but he wish to correct things/ mindsets for the future.
Traumatic past be it genetically acquired or groomed to be emotionally unstable... like myself.
Well... I just Can Not control myself sometimes; unfortunately its' my dearest husband whom had to suffer in silence-
enduring my despicable words/ crazy self harming activities and partner punching habits when I lost control of myself time and again.
We didn't had a wonderfully smooth or constantly sweet memory in our decade long relationship.
But we took the vow at a chapel, we shall be there for each other; till death do us apart.
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