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Author Topic: Please help me figure out what to think

March 01, 2020, 05:19:20 PM
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My girlfriend of nearly 3 years left me a week-and-a-half ago. The breakup was not pretty. She violated my trust and in revenge I did the same thing to her. It was a really stupid idea but seemed logical at the time. We waited a few days and then she texted me and said that she hopes that we can learn to trust each other again but only time will tell, which gave me a sliver of hope. Then she ghosted me for about 4 days. I reached out to her and asked if she was "done,done" or if we had an opportunity to be able to fix us after all of this, however slim that opportunity was. She responded with "I can't honestly answer that right now", which to me said there was some hope because she didn't say anything one way or another. That was 2 nights ago. Then this morning,  I passed her house on my way to work at about 6:15am and witnessed another dude getting into his truck to leave. Now I can't be but so upset at that since we are broken up right now. But I'm hurting emotionally and terribly confused because she says things that to me sound like there is hope but then she does that. I don't know what to think. I love her with all my heart and I know we both did dumb things,  but I honestly want to just forget the past and focus on the future, with her. I want to tell her all this but it's like every time I start to get some emotion out of her she ghosts me. What do I do? Is this a normal behavior? Most importantly,  is there any hope of salvaging this? Thank you in advance for your help!

April 04, 2020, 05:51:51 AM
Reply #1


Hi tlee1984!

The thing is you broke up for a reason and maybe she's trying new things with other guy and heal from your break up. I think she is ghosting you because emotionally it's too much for her. (and for you!). But everything remains possible. Your break up was not a long time ago, maybe give it some times before asking her again.

"I can't honestly answer that right now" : then let time do its own thing. She probably needs time to think, but in the meantime do new things, see your family, friends and try to enjoy your life after your break up. But I do think, you should tell her how you feel and you want to fix your relationship, but if she doesn't want to, i know it hurts but move on.

I hope you won't be treated as a second chance in the back of her mind. Everyone deserve to be a choice not an option.
Live. Just live.

April 04, 2020, 06:03:52 AM
Reply #2


I agree w the previous post. Time makes all things surface. I believe that if you go on w your life, work, family, friends, etc and not focus fully on her... that you will realize what you need to do or not do. Of course you’ll probably still think of her but don’t act on ut. You may very well realize this is how your life is supposed to be, without her in it as your gf.

April 12, 2020, 09:19:57 AM
Reply #3

Mr. Buchanan

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