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Author Topic: PLEASE HELP! My boyfriend has went cold in a weeks time!

February 02, 2019, 02:07:45 AM
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Broken4now


I'll try to not write a book here but my boyfriend was gotten so cold!  I just turned 46 and he's 44.  We have been together for 5 months.  He tried everything in the beginning to break down the wall I had up and it finally worked.  He was the sweetest and most thoughtful man ever!  He is the guy I have waited for all my life.  Our personalities and morals are a total match and the attraction between us was amazing!

He has talked marriage and meant it.  At Christmas my Mom even said how happy he seemed and in love and I am too.  He is so good to my kids.  We had a misunderstanding about 3 weeks ago but I thought everything was fine now.  We have spent time together and it was great.  He has to work 26 days in a row and said he was depressed he wouldn't be able to spend much time with me.  I showed up at his house and he acted distant and finally said that he didn't know if we would last forever. He hugged me for such a long time when I was leaving and kissed me.  He mentioned what all the other girls have told him in the past (like I was just going to do the same), I'm not.  I'm there here for the long haul!

Last week was my birthday and he was sweet as could be and said he wished me could take me out (but his son was there so couldn't that night).  I got an I love you and called beautiful and sweetie.  The next day he went totally cold.  There is no mention of taking me out to celebrate my birthday.   He still tells me Good Morning and checks in with me during the day and evening.  If I say anything flirting, it's kid of ignored.

I absolutely know there is no other woman but I don't know what to do.  He lost his Dad this year and is still down from that and his Mom is depressed.  I'm not breaking up with him but don't know how hard to push now either.

PLEASE OFFER ANY ADVICE YOU MAY HAVE!  I'm clueless and totally in love with this man!

February 05, 2019, 02:50:27 PM
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SarahLancaster


It may be that he's having second thoughts about your relationship.  The best thing to do, I think, is to give him time.  Don't initiate contact with him-let him do it.  It's possible that he's met someone else, too.

Just give it some time, and everything will be revealed.  In the meantime, don't close yourself off to other options.  Stay active, be independent.
"But the rain is full of ghosts tonight, that tap upon the glass and listen for reply."

-Edna St. Vincent Millay

 

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