I brutally found out yesterday that a former middle school classmate of mine committed suicide. We weren’t very close friends but he had always been nice to me, and I used to occasionally hang out with him, also during high school. He was only 20 years old when he died a few months after I last saw him, obviously I’m really shocked and upset by the news. I’m also doubly hurt because he died months ago and no one found it useful to inform me. Had I known, I would definitely have gone to the funeral.

Anyway, I wrote to my boyfriend yesterday afternoon about this and told him how shaken I was, he saw the messages but hasn’t replied at all. It’s not the first time he sees an important message and doesn’t answer (even a day later). When this happens he usually just acts as if the message didn’t exist and resumes a normal, « light » conversation when he has time. I know he is really busy preparing university exams at the moment, but it wouldn’t take long to send a few comforting words. I was hoping for some support with this news and didn’t get it from him at all. Does this mean he doesn’t care? I don’t want to sound like I’m desperate and begging for attention, but this lack of compassion was hurtful to me. Should I make a remark?

Empathy in a relationship is very important. You should not feel neglected by your boyfriend. Speak up about how you feel, and if he doesnt respond well,  try and explain your side to him.

Hi, this has happened to me several times but when I mentioned it he says that he was doing some work or he didn't see it. He always apologize and tell me that he's not going to do that again but he does it again anyway. Now I don't think of that anymore and I've let him to be like that. It's always important to let him know how you feel. Surely you don't want to be felt neglected. I believe if he really loves you he'll understand this types of issues and will do what ever it takes to make you happy.

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