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Author Topic: Never enough

May 15, 2019, 07:22:36 PM
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Sunshine918


My boyfriend and I have been off and on for the last 5 years. Neither of us have been unfaithful but I did date someone during an off period who contacts me frequently. I do not respond and he knows this and can see it. He has all my passwords and is free to use my phone, look at it, whatever. I’m completely transparent with everything as to not make him feel insecure. We have a pretty healthy sex life, 4-5 times a week and we don’t live together. I hardly refuse him but in the rare occasion I do, he gets so upset and says “you never want to be intimate with me”, he’ll say I’m not attracted to him and ask me what my problem is. He’ll raise his voice and get short with me, pout, slam things around. He literally throws a temper tantrum which completely turns me off and grosses me out and then our whole night is ruined. It’s maddening. I feel like he’s feeling insecure about me leaving him and he acts like if I don’t have sex with him then I’m interested in someone else. If I’m not 100% gung-ho then he starts to spiral and become anxious. Do men grow out of this? Best ways of dealing?

May 20, 2019, 10:19:34 PM
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Rutvi


I am not an expert in this. But as far as I know, the mutual respect is in threat in ur relationship. I am not sure how he is actually in other things. So try to explain him that you need space at times. If he really loves you, he will understand you. And you can't make someone feel secure by doing something. Time will show him your intentions towards the relationship. So just be chill on that part.

Today at 07:49:22 AM
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Leesee0702


He seems a bit insecure about himself. Maybe try to have a conversation about what triggers him when you say no and tell him it’s not personal.