So here is the back story

I started dating my current boyfriend 4 months ago (who is quite a few years older than me) whilst we were working abroad. When I came back I told my friend and she couldn't believe I was dating him and said he isn't good looking enough and I am out of his league. For a while now it has upset me how shallow and judgemental she has become but we've been friends for 20 years.

I stopped talking to her for a couple of months as she hurt he guy I care about and I felt disrespected. He knew I was in an argument with her and kept wanting to know why, I wouldn't say. Recently he saw me texting her (not the actual conversation) and said why do I have such immature arguments and made me feel quite small. In the heat of the moment I said 'over you!'.. once I said this I couldn't back down and not give the reason so now I have told him why. It has created an awkward feeling and I keep reassuring him I find him attractive so it is okay.

I texted friend and we have decided to meet and speak about this issue(as well as other things wrong in our friendship). BF is now telling me he feels hurt I want to see her and make up and he wishes I would be on his team.

Should I give up my 20 year friendship for my 4month relationship or try keep both at bay? I don't want to pick a team and am angry at friend but don't want to feel like I am forced to never make up with her. I know this is my fault for telling him the reason why we are arguing in first place.

It shouldn’t matter what your friend thinks about your partners looks. Everyone has different tastes and the only important thing is that you find him attractive and are happy with him! A true friend wouldn’t make you feel that way and would keep unkind opinions to themselves!