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Author Topic: My man said I’m not hot?!?!

May 20, 2019, 09:58:38 AM
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So my bf of almost a year told me yesterday that he doesn’t think I’m “hot”. Even though that’s what he enjoys looking at. And that despite me not being his type I should be happy he is with me. He told me I’m beautiful, but only because I don’t wear makeup and dress like a “whore”, even though he constantly ogles over other women who do the same. It made me feel completely inadequate and I honestly can’t stop comparing myself to women who ARE his type. Help!!! I’m so lost!

May 23, 2019, 05:25:02 PM
Reply #1


Hey !

Honestly, I don't know the feeling, and since you've been dating for a year, it must be difficult to see that he doesn't seems attracted by you...

It might be hard to tell yourself that but, you should talk to him in the first place. Explain to him why this situation is difficult for you.
If he doesn't understand try to put him in your shoes, what would he feels if you were the one only looking at other men ?

I wish you good luck!

May 24, 2019, 04:25:34 PM
Reply #2


Hey there!

Honestly I believe that if he is not attracted to you, and he has verbally expressed it that you need to have a conversation regarding his attraction and commitment. It’s not sure that he’d ever be unfaithful but his verbalizing I just does not sound good to me

June 02, 2019, 12:10:16 AM
Reply #3


What a horrible thing to say! I wonder if he is trying to make you insecure so that you don't leave him. Has he ever said hurtful things like this before?

June 04, 2019, 11:50:12 AM
Reply #4


This is so strange  >:( I cannot even imagine how I would say these words to my GF ... Don't compare yourself with the "hot" girls around your man. This is so abusive. In my opinion, a man should admire his woman and give her as many compliments as possible ...

June 06, 2019, 09:59:56 AM
Reply #5

Love to brew

It sounds like he has a massive lack of respect for you and your thoughts and feelings. I would never dream of telling any woman that, let alone my partner!

I know relationships aren't all about looks, but if he is constantly looking at other women and treats you in the way that he is at present I would question it with him and see what happens.

It doesn't sound the best to me, sorry.

July 07, 2019, 01:08:51 PM
Reply #6


My advice is quite simple: don't be with someone who treats you like that!
Anyone who makes you feel less worthy, not pretty enough or "small" or insignificant in their eyes, then they're not the person for you.
The person next to you should be your rock. The one who supports you and does NOT disrespect you in such a way!
Anyone who says that someone's happy that they're giving them their time, are just full of themselves and do NOT care for the other person.

You deserve a lot better.

July 07, 2019, 08:28:41 PM
Reply #7


You deserve a lot better. It seems like he has to put you down to make himself feel better. I am sure you’re beautiful and don’t need to do a thing!

July 25, 2019, 11:57:31 PM
Reply #8


He doesn't deserve you. Don't feel insecure. He shouldn't just focus on your looks. This doesn't look like a healthy relationship.