So my bf of almost a year told me yesterday that he doesn’t think I’m “hot”. Even though that’s what he enjoys looking at. And that despite me not being his type I should be happy he is with me. He told me I’m beautiful, but only because I don’t wear makeup and dress like a “whore”, even though he constantly ogles over other women who do the same. It made me feel completely inadequate and I honestly can’t stop comparing myself to women who ARE his type. Help!!! I’m so lost!

Hey there!

Honestly I believe that if he is not attracted to you, and he has verbally expressed it that you need to have a conversation regarding his attraction and commitment. It’s not sure that he’d ever be unfaithful but his verbalizing I just does not sound good to me

This is so strange  I cannot even imagine how I would say these words to my GF ... Don't compare yourself with the "hot" girls around your man. This is so abusive. In my opinion, a man should admire his woman and give her as many compliments as possible ...

Hi,
My advice is quite simple: don't be with someone who treats you like that!
Anyone who makes you feel less worthy, not pretty enough or "small" or insignificant in their eyes, then they're not the person for you.
The person next to you should be your rock. The one who supports you and does NOT disrespect you in such a way!
Anyone who says that someone's happy that they're giving them their time, are just full of themselves and do NOT care for the other person.

You deserve a lot better.

He doesn't deserve you. Don't feel insecure. He shouldn't just focus on your looks. This doesn't look like a healthy relationship.