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Author Topic: My husband wants a break

May 20, 2019, 07:42:35 AM
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Asum66


In February I was diagnosed with breast cancer. After finding out my husband was there for me, going to every doctors appointment with me and pretty much being my main caregiver now that I am in the middle of chemo.

Last Monday my husband suddenly approach me saying that “we need to have a talk”. When I asked him what it’s about he says his feelings for me changed since I got cancer. He told me he doesn’t want to come home from work sometimes because he is afraid he is going to find me dead.

He also said he feels frustrated because we haven’t been having sex since I started chemo and that he has been talking to a girl that he is thinking about dating her.

After hearing this I decided to finish the remainder of my treatments at my moms and give him his break since I’m so sick from the chemo and have no energy to try to hold on to him.

Will we be able to get back together? I don’t even know how long the break is for and just been crying constantly because I was abandoned when I was counting on his support.

June 22, 2019, 04:08:25 PM
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Gemneyes


I am so sorry you're having to deal with his bs while also going through such a difficult time with your health.  I think he is such a jerk for doing this to you, especially now!   You can't control what he does, so you don't really have any options but to just hold on and focus on your health as much as possible.  You are at a weak moment right now but it is temporary.  Just set your sights on getting yourself healthy again so that you can work on the marriage afterwards.  He is most likely just under a lot of stress and he doesn't know how to deal with it.  Not making excuses for him, however.  I think he should go to counseling or support group specifically for spouses going through the same situation.   It would help him cope with his issues in a healthy way.   After you get well,  you'll have the energy to work things through with your husband.  I hope he gets help because him dealing with his issues his way is not going to help him...it is just a distraction.  Best of luck to you my dear. 

June 30, 2019, 04:37:43 AM
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ReneeOfHearts


Through sickness through health doesn't mean much to people these days.

I'm sorry you have to deal with so much
 I hope that he attends support meetings for those who are supporting cancer patients, it might do him so good, give him an avenue to voice his feelings without judgment.

July 10, 2019, 02:59:47 PM
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Hello,
I'm a local therapist and I have heard many stories like this and I've experienced it myself. It can be quite hard but you will get through this.
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Hope things get better.
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July 21, 2019, 09:34:44 AM
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david77


It's a sad story to hear that he's making such poor choices; his behavior isn't acceptable, especially considering your circumstances.
If you could get him to a counseling session with you, sometimes religious based organizations have people to talk to for free as well, or get yourself into one and take it from there, but it doesn't seem like he would be interested in attending considering his behavior. You should gain knowledge from people who have advice in this area. Read books that pertain to similar issues, get perspective on what is going on, ect, but being able to talk to others in person would be very good.
In the end, he needs to want to be with you, and not feel forced or convinced, otherwise it wouldn't be genuine and perhaps this would happen again; how to get him to want this I do not know but you have to be ok if he doesn't, obviously easier said than done but you are what is important not him or anyone else.  You can not control anyone's choices, you can only control yours and your responses. Do not have high expectations, otherwise when they aren't met you will be devastated. No matter what life throws at you, stand-up for yourself and don't let anyone make you feel less of a person than you are, you deserve better. Be around people who care about you, and try to appreciate your life no matter what you go through; make the best out of it to the best you can no matter what happens, we don't live forever. Don't let life make happiness for you, you choose what you want in life and try to make it happen, and when that fails you do the best you can to move on and forward. You create your own happiness and you do not need anyone to give you that, otherwise you will be empty once it's gone; genuine happiness can only come from within and not from your environment. What you are going through can not be easy, and not even the best therapist in the world can fully understand if they haven't gone through exactly what you are. Be brave and be yourself! Hopefully it works out for you, but if it doesn't, try to gain peace and love yourself and your life and move forward and on to the best you can.


August 04, 2019, 07:12:56 AM
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